Just weeks away from their son's due date, Jinger and Jeremy Vuolo sit down to answer some of their listeners' frequently asked questions. Their responses make up Episode 31 of The Jinger and Jeremy Podcast. They discuss whether Christians can own pricey cars and homes while still maintaining a genuine relationship with God, and Jinger mentions their Lexus SUV, which they are soon going to sell. They talk about public school vs. private school, and they respond to a fan who asks how Justin and Claire Duggar are doing. At the end of the episode, Jinger explains why she doesn't harbor any anger towards her parents for the way they raised her.
Wednesday, February 12, 2025
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Oh pleeeease. Jeremy mansplaining why he can have tons of expensive shoes, watches, pens, clothes....because he "enjoys art" and "God's beauty." That is the worst narcissistic rationalization I've ever heard. He'll never change because he's justified everything and he thinks he's square with God on it. It's not for the looks or the compliments, y'all! It's "art."
ReplyDeleteI agree. Thhey come across as believing they are entitled to their current prosperity.
DeleteI don't think they think they're entitled to it, they're simply enjoying being blessed with it. What are they supposed to do not have anything nice because someone else may become jealous? You can donate your time,money,food,clothing and still enjoy some of the nonessential frills of life. I'm tickled for them. They're living the life a lot of people dream of. Including you.😉
Delete@12:18 perfectly said. We all like nice things and enjoy the feeling of success. I think God wants this for us.
DeleteI'd be careful about saying God wants us to have nice things. The Bible speaks a lot about riches and the poor, and it also says that a man's life does not consist of "the abundance of things" that he possesses. There are way more important things for those who call themselves Christians to give their lives to.
Delete@11:05 Then with that logic, God wants others to be poor and to go without?
DeleteI'd say it's pretty east to maintain your relationship with God when you have all the goodies they do.
ReplyDeleteIn a way I agree, but I'd say it's also hard to maintain a relationship with God because you can start feeling like you've got this and don't need God as much and stop being thankful.
DeleteThe only thing i have to say about the private vs the public school issue for Christians or conservative parents is that the public school atmosphere and teaching are heavily leaning towards the left. When the Bible says raising children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord it means to give them a faith based education whether that's church or reading writing and arithmetic. The problem for Christian parents with public school is religion is not allowed within the school and they teach things that are in direct conflict with the Bible. Evolution instead of six-day creation for example. according to the John Birch Society, statistics show that 50% of kids from Christian families will leave the faith upon graduation from high school and of the 50% remaining, 70% of them will leave the faith upon graduation from secular college. On the conservative side of the issue, the Millennial generation, which were largely educated by public schools, some 70% of them identify as socialists. I'm an exception to that, but i was homeschooled during a time when it was not normal to be so. Homeschooling today is much more popular and for the reasons i already stated above. Obviously not everybody has the option to private or homeschool even if they want to. Everyone's situation is different, but for me, if Christian /conservative parents can go the private or homeschool route, that would be the best option because you can be sure that your kids are getting a faith based/conservative worldview education. You can't be sure of that in the public school system.
ReplyDeleteWe have DNA and fossil evidence for evolution. Even if you have a problem with it for some reason, I think it's important to understand what it's all about and the evidence behind it. The science has changed and evolved since Darwin, as science makes new discoveries. To not allow your kids to be presented with new information so they can make informed decisions for themselves seems counter productive. Education does tend to lend itself to questioning one's previously held ideas and beliefs. I would rather have answers that can be questioned and even have questions that can't be answered, rather than answers that can't be questioned.
DeleteTrue indeed. My cousin, who was public school educated, is putting his kids in a church run school. He called it "A no brainer." The home school faction in my area has grown a lot the last four years. If i ever have kids, i plan to home school them.
DeleteAnd thus the reasoning for church vs state (thank Jesus/gOd/Allah)
DeleteI don't why you think public schools should provide Christian religious instruction to pupils. There are more than ONE religion being practiced in this country. Religious instruction should be provided at home and in the church of your choice.
DeleteWell said, 2:43. As parents we are rightly concerned for our children's physical safety and well being. It is imperative we also prioritize what is allowed into their minds and hearts.
DeleteAmen 6:49! My faith is stronger because my beliefs have been challenged since I first committed myself to Jesus at 12.
Delete9:52 I absolutely agree. It shouldn't even be an issue about schools. I don't know why parents always try to make it one. That, and trying to say that the schools are indoctrinating kids somehow. Teachers have no time for that! If your kids are hearing things you don't like, it's most likely coming from the other little darlings, not the school or the teachers. Those little darlings are everywhere, even in private schools and home schools. Anywhere where there's access that YOU gave them by giving them a computer and/or a phone and/or a TV and/or a trip to your local library. There's also a good chance they heard something right from you or your friends, too. So look at your own home, don't bash teachers!
Delete@ 9:52 I never said i think public schools should provide Christian instruction to pupils. I said christian/conservative parents should send their kids to schools that teach Christian/conservative values. It is about choice and ensuring a religious educational worldview for one's children is a very important choice to make.
Delete@6:49, I have a problem with anything that is contradictory with God's word. As i am instructed to teach my kids the "admonition of the Lord" i therefore teach them the truth of the Bible which is a six day creation. "let God be true and every man a liar" Men came up with evolution. As for our kids getting both sides of the debate, it might surprise you to know that the homeschooling curriculum I was brought up on and intend to use actually tells the story of Darwin and his followers. All of the science dvds and resources i have gives both sides and discusses them. You see we don't believe in hiding the opposite viewpoint, but reveal it alongside the teachings of the Bible and the scientific evidence for creation. Its a misconception that Christians kids who received religious based educations are not told what the other side says. But you know what, the public school does NOT tell their students what the other side says. It is also a misconception that Christian kids are coerced into believing the Bible. Christianity is a free will religion and when kids reach the time when they have to make the decision to follow God or not, they are left to make it for themselves. The parents have done their duty to point them to the truth. The kids are culpable for the decision they make in what they do with the truth.
Delete50% eh @2:43. Well i can give a 50% example. My parents were both educated in public schools and my quilter's two kids were educated in public schools. All four went to church regularly. My parents believed the Bible and stuck to it throughout their education, but my quilter's daughters: they graduated and told their mom, "we don't believe in God anymore." It took years but they finally came around and returned to the church.
Delete@2:43 What do you think that faith-based education is going to do for kids? Guarantee that they always vote conservative and never get in any moral trouble? It doesn't happen that way. I went to public school but right down the road was the Catholic school. Those kids were rowdy! Smoked and drank and took drugs and dated and partied just like the rest of 'em. Maybe harder, because they really had something to rebel against. I remember one of those girls got pregnant and...well, you know. So much for a religious education in my town. It didn't accomplish much for the kids who had to endure it. Lifelong disdain for it, if anything. If you think a religious education is the solution to everything and superior to anything, it isn't.
Deletei was homeschooled as a kid but i had tons of friends who were public schoolers. All my cousins were public schoolers. I don't think its wrong to let ones kids hang out with kids of a opposite upbringing, but i don't think its right to place them daily for hours in an environment that is anti-Christian in so many ways. yes we are "in the world but we are not of it" which means we don't participate in the world's system. Yes we go to the same jobs and grocery stores but sending one's kids to be educated in a way that is not faith based is "walking in the council of the ungodly". If the world goes to an R rated movie Christians don't because we are not to put "unclean things in front of our eyes" and onscreen sex is unclean especially if its between unmarried couples because the Bible forbids fornications. That's not legalism that's just "being holy for I am holy" as Jesus commanded us. We're commanded to live righteously which means we live in a manner that is different from the culture around us. we don't form isolated clans like the Amish but live among our neighbors as witnesses of a Christian lifestyle. We're "a light that is set on a hill" but we have to be different to be seen as a light. Lights stand out, if we don't stand out in a crowd our light is hidden under a bushel. Over the years people have asked me what my religion is and the reason they ask is always the same, i am different from them and they can see that. They want to know why i am different. It is because i am a Christian. this world is not my home I'm just a passing through and that journey is noticed and i can give the Gospel when they ask "What makes you do things differently?"
ReplyDeleteFunny. I am a public school teacher, and a liberal. Yet I am a Christian, first and foremost. In public school we cannot tell children what they should believe but we can act as we were commanded to do by Jesus and also by what we are taught in Micah: to love mercy, to do justice, and walk humbly with our God. While I never proselytized, and had children of many faiths in my classroom over 42 years of teaching, children often speculated on the beliefs of teachers. ( Religious discussion and prayer happens daily in public schools, y'all. Teachers just are not allowed to direct it. I have always been careful to direct children's religious questions to their parents,telling them the wonderful thing is we live in a country where families can choose which place of worship, if any, to attend, and I will not take that choice away by answering questions their families should be answering. And then I quietly call home with a 'heads up' so families know what their child is curious about.) And yet, when I hear the children speculate about me, they inevitably decide I'm a Christian, and the reason given is 'she loves us and forgives us when we do things wrong'. Makes me remember the old camp song, They'll Know We Are Christians By Our Love...and that old saying 'If you were tried for being a Christian, would there be enough evidence to convict you?' I am most certainly not perfect and fall short daily, but do my best daily to live by that verse from Micah. And I'm not the only one. And what may be interesting to some and completely unsurprising to others is that my Jewish, Atheist, Wiccan, and Muslim colleagues share the SAME belief that redirecting children's religious questions to the home is the right and ethical thing to do...and they, too, do not share their faith tradition in the classroom.
DeleteI think you underestimate people who don't subscribe to your religion. I assure you, we're not all living lives of complete debauchery. I've known and know quite a few people who are not religious in any way, but set a fine example of being compassionate, humble and honorable individuals. They've also raised their kids to be the same.
DeleteWell said and explained. I love this!
Delete2:57 How is public school "anti-Christian"? I mean specifically against that particular religion that you named. Perhaps you're confusing "not acknowledging any one religion because our students are all different religions therefore we treat them all equally by leaving religion completely out of our curriculum, our school programs, and our school day" with "anti-Christian"? Kids who show up to school wearing Christian cross necklaces are not kicked out. There are Christian Bibles in the school libraries. As long as kids don't try to make religion part of the public school day (like insisting on saying prayers during school time, and more specifically, only Christian prayers), then what's the issue and how can you claim "anti-Christian"? You do know you're free to worship however you want outside of public school, don't you? That churches and public schools are supposed to be two different things? It's kind of like saying that apple over there is "anti-orange."
DeleteThank you @ 12:37 :) And not all public schools allow Christianity in the schools. I know of a girl who went to school back in the pandemic and her mask said "Jesus Saves". They refused to let her in the school until she got a different mask. Another child was handing out tracts at the door. They confiscated the tracts and disciplined the child.
DeleteDifferent public schools have different policies. My school's policy was specific in that in didn't allow the promotion of religion. So, a Jesus Saves mask would have been fine, bc that's just clothes (people wore crosses and Christian t shirts all the time), but passing out tracts would have been stopped. We had various Christian clubs, and they were allowed to put up flyers and I was asked if I wanted to go by some classmates. It was clear that it was treated like any other club, and any promotion had to be for the club (which was of course optional) and not for specific beliefs. I found this policy fair.
Delete2:35 I taught in public schools for 35 years. No one was ever prevented from wearing clothing or jewelry with religous symbols or words for self expression. Passing out religous tracts on school property is a different matter and is promoting a religion. If you allow one relgious group to do it, you'd have to let all others do the same.
DeleteSome schools have policies of wearing plain polo shirts in school colors or other plain clothing as their dress code. That doesn't mean that if you come to school wearing Jesus apparel and you're asked to go home and change, that your religion is being attacked. It means you didn't follow the rules that everyone is supposed to follow.
DeleteNeddy Constant
ReplyDeleteHappy Valentine's Day.
Hope everyone is in enjoying it
Even me. Glad Jere & Jing
And the rest of their fam.
Doing good.
Time 3:20PM Fri 2/14/25
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Happy belated Valentines Day Neddy! 💝
DeleteJust so you know if you aren't able to homeschool or do a private Christian school look into Christian microschools. They're getting real popular now. They're like a one room school.
ReplyDeleteThe Vuolos teach an "everyone does that which is right in their own eyes" philosophy. God said, 'Ye shall do so no more." There really is a right and wrong way to do things. Life is not all gray areas. Jinger and Jeremy go way out of their way to avoid saying so. Why? becasue they want to go their own way.
ReplyDeleteYes, @8:08 i have noticed that. They actually appear to work hard to avoid making any dogmatic statements. You can't do that in Christianity. The fact of the matter is, they don't want to acknowledge any hard fast rules that they have to follow. they want to make their own. They're kidding themselves if they think they're following God.
Delete7:39 There are hundreds, if not thousands, of different denominations that fall under the Christianity umbrella. If they all agreed on rules and doctrine, that wouldn't be the case. Which ones do you claim to be not "following god" ?
DeleteMy mom's grade school friend, when it came time to decide about her son's education, came close to choosing homeschool, but opted for public school instead. Years later, she has lived to regret this decision. Her son is very messed up today as an adult becasue of the public school education. or should i say indoctrination. I have a teenage cousin who ended up with the same messed up problem. It can be traced to the public school she attended. We're talking a generation apart between these two examples. The public school system has been corrupted for a long time.
ReplyDeleteMy kids attended public schools and colleges and they're not mess up. I also taught for 35 years in public schools. What problems are you claiming can be traced back to them and how are they corrupt?
DeleteSounds like kids messed up by bad parenting and bad home situations, not a bad schools. None of those parents could straighten out their own kids? Just wanted to let it happen and blame public school? Sounds about right.
DeleteOf course a People Pleaser wouldn't harbor anger... Does Jinger have any emotions other than anxiety?
ReplyDelete"I don't care about buying clothes that are like really expensive." Says the girl who was filmed happily shopping on Rodeo Drive and buying a $300 blazer that she couldn't wait to wear and to show Jeremy. I believe that particular clip was featured on this blog back in 2020?
ReplyDeleteMaybe she's changed her mind in the past 5 years.
DeleteMy, what a lot of mind changing the Duggars do. So much for having convictions. Why should we believe what they say now, if what they said then is out the window? Sitting here trying to imagine how you go through life changing your mind over core values like that.
DeleteLOL Jinger had to pretend to buy that jacket because the producers wanted to show her being so "LA." But she went right along with it and didn't refuse. Now she claims she doesn't care about expensive clothes? Jeremy took her to get custom sneakers made too, and didn't they get something designer done with old t-shirts? Jinger was modeling them. After all those clothes and shoes she has photographed herself and her girls wearing, I can't believe she doesn't care about that stuff.
DeleteCould have fooled me 1:08. She takes pic of herself in outfit after outfit and in her closet. She had to go shopping for new stuff for her latest book tour, and she sure wasn't at Target or Wal-Mart. Jeremy also loves his expensive clothes and shoes and has posted them many times. I think they like to say things that they think are endearing or appealing to an audience, but it's not always the truth. More like how they wish things were, which is sad for them. They're trying to keep up an image that's not authentic. Read the body language. They're both uncomfortable.
DeleteOf course Jinger isn't angry with her parents. They made her famous and now she has luxury cars and a 1.9 million dollar home. Her books have have paid for Jeremy's many years of higher education, and she has provided well for her growing family. What is there to be angry about?
ReplyDeleteOkay, Jeremy Vuolo is preaching but is he listening to his own sermon? Everything said was describing himself as seen on his social media, plus his body language is very telling. Jeremy appeared to be fidgety while talking about this subject and in which he did say he was going too deep on this topic. There is an old saying, Thou doth protest too much. Maybe Jeremy does know this about himself but enjoys too much of a lavish lifestyle to curb it. So he justifies it through a Bible story that he can add to, to work for his conscience.
ReplyDeleteI noticed he did not verbally agree with Jinger when she said name brands and price tags aren’t important to her.
My question is for Jana and Stephen, it was lovely to see the previous videos, but when will they post a new video? It'd be nice to see a follow up to the home reno.
ReplyDeleteThey are busy on a carnival cruise at the moment with her parents.
DeleteI hate when people vilify public schools. I was in public schools from K-12th grade and I turned out just fine. I was raised in a vaguely Christian home and committed myself to following Jesus when I was 13. God surrounded me with Christian friends and my faith was strengthened because it was challenged (by culture, not teachers or some sort of systemic “indoctrination”). I have no problem with private schools or homeschooling but stop acting like public schools are evil. Religious formation is the responsibility of parents first and the church community second.
ReplyDeleteAlso, my friend is a Christian public school teacher. She once said “If we had the ability to indoctrinate kids, we’d indoctrinate them to do their homework!” Lol
4:26 it’s great that you had a positive experience with public schools. Actually, the state and community has a lot to do with how focused the schools are on reading , writing and math..without the crazy progressive teachings. Obviously you didn’t attend California public schools.
DeleteThe next episode features Joy and Austin who were visiting the Vuolos in California. Why on earth is Gideon still sucking his thumb.
ReplyDeleteOh my..some kids just seem to need that sucking to self calm down, I sucked my fingers longer than 6!. My two year old grandson never would take a pacifier and never sucked his thumb or fingers, he seems to self calm by twisting labels on his blankets.
DeleteI wonder what their dentist has to say about thumb sucking at that age. If they even take their kids to a dentist. Sending Gideon to public school and letting him be around other kids his age who don't thumb suck would probably stop him cold, too. Joy has some work to do with him. Hope she realizes that.
Delete7:25 yes, it seems like the thumb sucking can push the front teeth forward. Sucking of the fingers is a different motion, instead of pushing teeth forward the fingers lay in the middle of the top and bottom teeth. He may need the emotional sucking for now, he could always get braces if needed in future.
Delete@8:22 You shouldn't use braces later to correct a problem you could fix now.
DeleteAmazon advertises an Aero thumb sucking stop kit. The reviews all appear to be quite successful, with parents expressing surprise that it helped their eight year old to stop sucking. Of course other suggestions are giving on the internet. Besides being concerned about the teeth, speech can be affected by thumb sucking.
DeleteA few years ago they took little Gideon to the dentist and the dentist advised them back then that the thumb sucking should be stopped; not good for his teeth. How well the primary teeth are taken care of has an effect on the permanent teeth. Once again, the parents need to address why the need to suck his thumb at 7 yrs old? They are not doing that.
DeleteIf you want your kids to be indoctrinated, send them to church. If you want your kids to be educated scholastically, and in the way of the world, send them to public school.
ReplyDeleteExactly.
DeleteYou are wrong about public education. The Department of Education's mandates are primarily based on defined attitudes and behaviors (outcome-based education). Academics is no longer the primary focus, government-defined behaviors and attitudes are. The Duggars may have got sucked into a cult, but public schools indoctrinate also. There are far better curriculums (not what the Duggars used) that parents can use to give their children a far superior education to that of public schools. When we had our daughter tested at the end of 5th grade against public school standards, she scored near college level. That's how dumbed down education has become in public schools. Our homeschool curriculum was comparable to the standards of school about 100 years ago.
DeleteAs for churches, they do not indoctrinate unless they are a church in apostasy.
How old are your kids?
Delete@2:48 How does public school "indoctrinate"? I have never experienced that and neither have my children. School doesn't force you to think any one way. That's what makes it much nicer than a church school or home school that has very closed and very one-way thinking. THAT is indoctrination! You're also wrong about schools being dumbed down. All of them have advanced placement, accelerated classes, or IEP's for gifted kids. My son's school partners with a college and the kids go on campus during part of the day for college level classes and college credit. Not "dumbed down" at all. My public school way back when let me work independently in science and languages, at my own fast pace and with my own projects. School 100 years ago wasn't so hot, either... You graduated from 8th grade and that was about that - you could leave school forever and maybe work on the farm instead or be an apprentice in a business.
DeleteIf Jinger is not impressed with expensive clothes, why was Jeremy wearing a $150 vest from a local designer and a $45 branded golf hat in one of her latest pictures of him? They made sure the labels showed. I don't think they're buying used and saving the difference. Maybe they're hoping for free stuff from designers? Makes you wonder about priorities.
ReplyDeleteI don't wonder. They've made their priorities very clear. Only the best for them.
DeleteBuying used and saving the difference is one of her parents ideas...she doesn't need to do what they did. Who cares what they spend per item, it's their money. So many responses on this blog scream JEALOUSY.
Delete@11:13 Guess you missed all the paid seminars the girls gave and the chapters in their books where they talked about dressing modestly on a tight budget! Also how Jim Bob warned Jeremy about Jinger's thrift store shopping habit. Remember that scene at the restaurant when they were engaged?
Delete@3:27 the girls were still pretty young when that book was written and hadn't yet experienced life outside their parents home. Can we hold anyone to what they thought as teens. Their budgets may not be as tight as adults since they don't have 19 children.
Delete@5:53 So what you're saying is that the parents led the young girls down the wrong path of thinking. I see.
Delete@8:56 I think what 5:53 is saying is that the parents taught their kids their convictions and those were written about in the book. Then they grew up, got married, had their own children and now have their own convictions which are different from their parents.
DeleteFor Jinger not caring about labels, she got very excited when she found a Polo shirt for baby while shopping with Joy.
ReplyDeleteHere's hoping that Derick is enjoying his 36th Birthday!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteHere's hoping that Derick is enjoying his 36th Birthday!!!!!!! (Posted by Here's Hoping.)
ReplyDeleteI assume that anyone who owns a Lexus has poor impulse control. I avoid them accordingly.
ReplyDeleteThe obvious right answers for what to do with extra money are to give it to charity, or to save it for future expenses, emergencies, or early retirement.
But spending it on yourself right away can be fine too. Buying a nice house or yard often improves someone's mental health, or at least is an ok financial investment. Buying fashionable clothes is frivolous but rarely wastes huge amounts of money. Going on an expensive vacation can be very memorable for some people. Paying for a private school can sometimes be worth it, depending on the circumstances, since school is such a large part of childhood.
But buying a luxury car is useless! It's not safer, it's not faster, it doesn't last longer, it's not more comfortable or convenient. The only point is to win useless status games against other people who play useless status games.
And people with a decent amount of introspection and impulse control tend to realize that.
@7:16 I drive European luxury cars because I like their engineering and very comfortable appointments. They actually have been safer than other cars. Europeans were leaders in front-wheel drive, all-wheel drive, seat belts, headrests, air bags, automatic braking, and other safety features which the rest of the world car market eventually adopted, trying to catch up. They can certainly go faster than other cars, if you like getting speeding tickets. My cars don't last longer, but I don't need them to. I only drive around 2000 - 3000 miles a year. I can afford to buy these cars because my retirement is fully funded past age 95, my house is paid for, I have no consumer debt, charitable giving is on track, and I have a 2-year cash emergency fund saved. I didn't buy those cars until that was taken care of. For me, it's not a status thing or a competition thing driving luxury cars, it's a preference. I agree though that it doesn't make sense for younger families to be going into debt and indulging themselves with expensive cars. First things first. I started out in life so broke that I pinched pennies until Lincoln's eyes watered.
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