For those who were able to tune in to John and Abbie Duggar's wedding last night on TLC, what did you think? (In case you missed it, it was the same segment that is available on the network's website--the links can be found here.)
The bride and groom wrote their own vows, so we thought we would type them up and share them with you all:
John's Vows:
I, John, take you, Abbie, to be my cherished wife for as long as we both shall live. You are my virtuous woman. All the things on Earth pale in comparison to you, and my heart safely trusts in you. By God's grace, I will love and cherish, honor and respect, encourage and lead you by my example.
I will rejoice with you when you are happy and comfort and wipe away your tears when you are sad. I give myself wholly to you, Abbie. By God's grace, I will hold nothing back and be faithful, keeping my eyes only for you.
I will love you unconditionally and without reservation. I purpose to lead our family as I follow Jesus, wherever He may lead us. I purpose to kiss you when you least expect it, at the most inopportune times and the most random places we may be in the world, just because I love you so much. I look forward to spending each day and growing old with you. I love you, Abbie.
Abbie's Vows:
I, Abbie, take you, John, to be my beloved husband for as long as we both shall live.
You are a gracious gift to me sent from God. You are above and beyond anything I have ever dreamed of, and I am honored and humbled to have you as my husband.
I will rejoice with you when you are happy and comfort and wipe away your tears when you are sad. I give myself wholly to you, John. By God's grace, I will hold nothing back. I will be faithful and guard my heart, keeping it only for you.
I will love you unconditionally and without reservation. I will go where you go and lodge where you lodge...and fly where you fly. Your people will be my people because your God is my God. I will take your name as my new identity and will forever stay always right by your side. I look forward to spending time together and growing old with you. I love you, sugar muffin.
Photo courtesy TLC
Sugar Muffin, really?
ReplyDeleteTo each his own!
DeleteHow to embarrass your new husband in one easy lesson. lol
DeleteNow we're picking on innocuous nicknames they have for each other?
DeleteAnon 2:29. The nickname is innocuous but none of the men I know would be OK with being called "sugar muffin" in front of 1000 people and TV cameras. I see endless teasing by his brothers. IMO it was a bad idea on Abbie's part.
DeleteWent from Batchelor 'til the Rapture to Sugar Muffin at the speed of light, didn't he.
DeleteLook, weddings are about the bride and groom. They're intimate affairs. What may seem silly to you, such as this "Sugar Muffin" nickname that Abbie used in her vows, is very personal to the couple. People are not witnesses to a wedding to judge; they're there to share in the couple's moment -- even we viewers.
DeleteHe didn't seem embarrassed! He seemed THRILLED with his new wife. 😊
DeleteThose that do are probably getting called worse things at home or get no sweet talk at all so they are maybe bitter or jealous...ya think?😁
DeleteHahahah!!! Sugar muffin???!!!
DeleteI don't think he was embarassed at all.
DeleteWhat's embarrassing in showing your affection through nicknames? We are humans, not robots.
It could have been a lot worse. Sugar Muffin is pretty innocuous. Maybe there's an inside story to the name.
DeleteNo, I don't think, 9:52. You don't have to have those things going on at home to know that being called "Sugar Muffin" on TV could be embarrassing for a Duggar male.
DeleteI assume the wedding special was so short because that is what the couple wanted? We are used to seeing 1 or 2 hour specials with dress buying, decorating the church, planning, the reception. I was really hoping to see them fly off from their reception! I really like these two together, and I know people have been saying their first kiss was very sweet...but it made me very uncomfortable. It seemed way too intimate to be shared in front of 1000 people + however many watch online or on tv.
ReplyDeleteThe first view of each wedding has been short. TLC usually shows the full wedding and all the preparation as a two hour special during the new season. TLC has not announced a new season yet so we’ll have to wait and see.
DeleteNo, TLC has been doing shorter "first looks" soon after the wedding, and then the long special comes during the regular season.
DeleteTLC does this all the time. They milk these weddings and births for numerous shows. I would suggest not watching the wedding again if you didn't like the kissing scene.
DeleteThe vows are precious...
ReplyDelete"I love you sugar muffin"? I can't believe anyone would say that during their wedding vows. I'm totally at a loss as to why.
ReplyDeleteTheir vows are their spoken heart. Thats truly all that matters. Whatever you say to your spouse on your own wedding day, is also your business. If someone asks you why you said what you did for your vows, what will your answer be to that person asking?
DeleteBecause it's their wedding, and it's a nickname they use?
DeleteI agree, a simple "I love you" would have sufficed
DeleteBecause it's their love language?
DeleteI think nicknames are great but maybe not appropriate in a wedding ceremony. Thank goodness, Jinger didn’t say, “In sickness and in health, Babe,”.
Delete5:59, a nickname isn’t a love language
DeleteWell, one of the love languages is words of affirmation, so I suppose you could stretch it a little and say that her term of endearment fits in that category.
DeleteMaybe it is one of the way they show love to one another. It's extremely cute and so refreshing to see something spontaneous.
DeleteLovef how Abbie called John David her suger muffin! So cute!
ReplyDeleteSugar muffin! Oh bless them!
ReplyDeleteI really wish we could get an update on Joe and Kendra. They are a sweet couple, but I haven't heard much about them recently.
ReplyDeleteThey're probably very private and not so social.
DeleteI thought John David's cimment about kissing was odd. Made me uncomfortable to say the least.
ReplyDeleteYes. But Abbie got him for it by calling him "Sugar Muffin".
DeleteIn the south that is a common sentiment...Nice change from babe.😉To each his own.Her accent while saying it makes it all that more sweet.I however...Am happy for them😄
DeleteIt was cute that they showed passion for each other!
DeleteI never knew John-David was such a romantic, really, but I knew he was a good man!!! Love U 2!!!!
ReplyDeleteI always liked John. He seems very level-headed and mature
DeleteSugar muffin? That's an interesting one.
ReplyDeleteI thought their vows were lovely and unique and the way john kissed abby i thought was beautiful he was only doing what he said he would do in his vows i loved their wedding as i have loved his siblings wedding each couple have done fofferent thongs i can't wait to see what they do in their next chapter hoping we can get a chance to see how their lives pan out love the Duggers
ReplyDeleteSue Shepherd, me too 😊
DeleteI think it’s the best Duggar wedding yet! I enjoy their personalities.
ReplyDeleteDefinitely a different wedding...
ReplyDeleteI absolutely LOVED the vows from both of them. You can tell the words were genuine and sincere. God is definitely in the arrangement here! Love them as a new couple and can't wait to see how God uses them.
ReplyDeleteAnything for you alway be here for you and huband and future children one day awesome parent and grandparent too soon we can keep up for! Start looking at the house anytime now! I ❣️❤️U sweetheart so much Mrs Abbie love you sweetheart
ReplyDeleteI thought their wedding was lovely. One thing I found especially poignant was that Abbie made only JD's twin, Jana, a bridesmaid out of all her sisters-in-law. This seemed surprising, yet very touching somehow, too. Their vows seemed traditional, which was nice. I always appreciate the mentioning of the Lord in them, too, which signifies to me a godly union and being open to God's presence throughout the marriage. I think JD and Abbie are going to have an exceptionally happy marriage. They seem very compatible and committed to one another.
ReplyDeleteWell she had other family and friends she wanted in her wedding. Can't have everyone
DeleteIt's appropriate that Michelle and Jim Bob named John what they did, for his name is Hebrew and it means "God Is Gracious."
ReplyDeleteJohn David is very much a gracious man and Abbie is lucky to have him.
Congratulations John and Abbie!
Amd he's lucky to have her!
DeleteRe John's vows - I don't like the word "purpose" used as a verb, pronounced the way the Duggars pronounce it. PURR-puss is not a verb. "That was the purpose [noun] of my speech." You don't PURR-puss something. You can purr-POSE to do something - used as a verb that way, most often followed by the word "to."
ReplyDeleteIt sounds so odd when the Duggars use PURR-puss as a verb. They could say "I intend to" or "I promise to" or "I will" instead. Or at least pronounce it as purr-POSE. I've never heard anyone else pronounce the verb form the way the Duggars do, and they all do it.
I never heard anything like "purpose to lead our family" until this show. Is a fundamentalist church thing?
DeleteIt is my pet peeve as well. Purpose is not a verb.
DeleteI've never heard the word purpose pronounced your way in any context. You do mean purpose and not propose? I just googled the definition of purpose, and it's used as a verb, meaning "have as one's intention or objective." So guess what - the Duggars use the word correctly! I also googled the pronunciation of purpose and canNOT find the pronunciation you say is correct. I'd be interested to hear how you came up with what you say.
DeletePurpose, with the accented first syllable, can be used as a noun or verb according to Miriam-Webster. I don’t often hear people use it as a verb. It seems to be used more in religious circles, from my expo. The other verb you refer to is propose, with accent on the second syllable.
DeleteWow. That was intense.
DeleteYes, Pur'-pose is a verb, and they use it correctly. The word Pro-pose' is also a verb, and is pronounced "pro-POSE", not "purr-POSE."
DeleteMaybe it’s a regional thing. I’ve heard it said that way and I’ve used it that way myself. Btw, I have a BA in English and a masters in English Ed.
DeleteThey do have some peculiar expressions, like when they say "whenever" instead of "when". I guess they must be local Arkansas expressions.
DeleteIt's the English language. The same word pronounced differently means something else. It's OK. The book "The Purpose Driven Life" is quite popular among Christians.
DeleteI think you're confusing the word propose with the word purpose. It's OK for John to purpose to do something, meaning that's what he intends to do.
DeleteWhatever are you talking about? The Duggars pronounce and use the word purpose correctly. I think you are mispronouncing the word propose though and are confusing it with the word purpose.
DeleteI am placed in a charter school by my agency, working as an SLP . In this network they use purpose in the same way. "I purpose" to call parents to give positive feedback at least once a week (for example). So, others do use it in the same way. This is in NYC.
DeleteIt is not unique to them. Used in this way it conveys a depth of meaning and intentional action that other phrases do not. It is not odd just because you are not familiar with the term.
DeleteThe word purpose can be used as both a noun and as a verb. It is normally pronounced Purr-puss (the way the Duggars pronounced it). I'm not sure why you think there's a different pronunciation when it's used as a verb. People use the term "repurpose" as a verb when they take things and use them (often with modifications) for something other than the original use of the item.
DeleteCheck your dictionary. Purpose can be used as a verb. As another poster stated, you're getting the verb propose (pro-pose') mixed up with purpose.
DeleteAre you mixing up purpose and propose on purpose?
DeleteI am 806. And, I stand corrected. Purpose can be a verb. Well, you learn something new every day!
DeleteWe say "whenever" in south Ga, too.
Deletejohn kisses were perfect esp for the words in his vows. I think it was great
ReplyDeleteSugar muffin?! I'd be so embarrassed to be called that, especially in front of hundreds of people.
ReplyDeleteThose are very sweet vows. They obviously wrote them together because of their similarities. Is that typical for people that write their own vows? I always thought if you wrote your own, the vows were a surprise to the other person. I could be completely off the mark.
ReplyDeleteWhen my husband and I wrote our wedding vows we did it separately and it was a surprise. But everyone is different.
DeleteOkay, cutest vows ever!!! Loved to read the vows. They just seem so authentic. I can't wait to see them more as a couple.
ReplyDeleteI did watch the ceremony... it still takes my breath away reading these vows they are very much in love.
ReplyDeleteBeautiful vows and a touch of humor! The wedding episode was beautiful, I watched it both times it was aired last night. I was levitating for them, a true love they both deserve! Congrats to Mr. & Mrs. John David Duggar! True love always and forever!
ReplyDeleteWhat does it mean to levitate for someone? Not being critical. I really don’t know.
Deletefloating
DeleteThose valves what's the most beautiful I have ever heard John you pin the perfect words that made a woman just melt and cry I'm so thankful for you guys and congratulations on your lifelong journey
ReplyDeleteSugar muffin? I can't believe an adult would say that in her wedding vows. That tops the vow to kiss in inopportune places. What a pair.
ReplyDeleteJD will never be allowed to forget it. His brothers will be calling him "Sugar Muffin" the rest of his life.
DeleteI guess Jilly Muffin will have to share the muffinhood with Sugar Muffin now.
DeleteSo? His brothers can call him anything they want. I doubt he will care. He found the love of his life. I am sure that any name she calls him is special to him and that is all that matters.
DeleteThis is really lovely. Wishing all the Duggars happiness and blessings!
ReplyDeleteAfter watching the wedding 3 times, I think John and Abbie and all of the Duggar Weddings except of Anna and Josh, but have seen some of the so called high lights of their wedding, should receive the Duggar Best Wedding Trophy. After all the years I have watched the Duggars I have never seen John so very happy. I can hardly wait for the show to come back on.
ReplyDeleteI think Jinger and Jeremy win that one
DeleteVery sweet! I just love how excited she was that it was finally her turn to be the bride.
ReplyDeletei hope we see a lot of them on counting on because they are just the most adorable couple!!
ReplyDeleteWould love to see more photos of the whole wedding party,and families.
ReplyDeleteI often wonder what would happen if a Duggar fell in love with someone who was't comfortable with being in the spotlight, and didn't want to be on TV. Would that be an end to any potential relationship as they would be shunning the 'family business' and earning potential from magazines etc?
ReplyDeleteI think if it were a daughter and the future husband was financially set it might work. With a son, it would probably be more difficult since a good potion of income comes from the show/ being in the spotlight.
DeleteWell look at Joe and Kendra, they’re still on the show but are FAR more private than the rest of the siblings, so I don’t think it would be a make or break thing.
DeleteDerick pulled his family from the show spotlight. Or else "events" led to their departure. We don't know for sure what it did to the family relationship. But that was after the wedding, not before. Remember, we still don't know if Jim Bob's famous premarital questionnaire is only for the guys, not the gals too.
DeleteSome of the family members are rarely shown, so I think they have a choice if they want to be on the show or not. That is probably the same for any future spouse.
DeleteIt already happened, OP. Who's not on the show any more?
DeleteI know 2 of the kids from little people big world decided not to be on their show anymore. It's all working out fine. Derrick and jill Dillard (formerly duggar) have decided not to be on the counting on show anymore as well.
DeleteAnon @ 12:00 OP here, there are two couples no longer on the show, Josh and Anna due to what Josh did to his sisters, and the Dillards who are no longer on the show because according to Derick his family was heading in a different direction, others feel he was fired by TLC. Both couples were very comfortable in front of the camera and enjoyed both the fame and money the show brought. What I mean is if one of the Duggars met someone who was very shy, or uncomfortable with putting their life on screen. I have to say I would be like that, there isn't enough money in the world that could persuade me to go on TV, or sell my privacy.
DeleteJoe and Kendra appear on the show, and had their courtship, marriage and honeymoon on the show, they don't do social media but thats a different thing. There is also a difference between being rarely seen and not participating in the show or any form of publicity at all, those who are rarely seen are usually not part of a storyline in the show, so do not get the same air time as those who are. I think it would be very difficult if not impossible to marry into this family and be totally private, I think some participation would be expected.
Delete3:52- If that were to be the case, it would be a huge red flag for ANYONE considering marrying into this family as it reflects poorly on the character of all concerned.
DeleteLoved it. So genuine and they are obviously in love. What a joy to watch!
ReplyDeleteI thought the wedding was lovely. The color scheme and dresses/flowers were beautiful. Their vows were heartfelt and unique to them. Overall really enjoyed watching this wedding!
ReplyDeleteI loved it all. Their wedding is what they wanted it to be. It was serious, sweet, funny and heartwarming. This is a beautiful couple all around. I feel so bad that people feel the need to throw negative comments about the way a couple chooses to celebrate their wedding. Unless anyone posting was asked to help plan their special day, please be kind and just be happy for the newlyweds.
ReplyDeleteI agree. I'm sure they loved every moment of their wedding and will enjoy reminiscing about every detail about this day that was uniquely theirs.
DeleteSweet vows without being overly sappy.
ReplyDeleteI think John and Abbie's vows they wrote were very good it came from there heart. Usually John seems quiet but on the show he was very happy and smiling. They make a wonderful couple. Natasha B.
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing the vows. They were tender, loving with a touch of humor. They are a sweet couple. I LOVED the first kiss because it was unique and heartfelt. I loved Abby whispering, "you are so silly." I don't think John David was trying to be silly but rather followed his heart. I much prefer this to mauling his new wife in front of the whole world. I wish this couple a lifetime of love and joy.
ReplyDeleteLoved the vows. Also the kiss(es). So precious. They fit together. Bless them both.
ReplyDeleteAbbie's special name for John should have remained private. Some things are just not for public knowledge, just my opinion.
ReplyDeleteThat's how I feel too 4:20. She didn't need to say that out loud.
DeleteI agree. I can't believe that ANY adult male would be OK with being called "Sugar Muffin" in front of wedding guests and TV cameras.
DeleteLol, "sugar muffin"? It might be a tad corny and a bit too mushy for my tastes, but there's hardly anything inappropriate about it that should make it "stay private."
DeleteIt's a very tame nickname, nothing inappropriate.
DeleteNow when is somebody going to find Jana a spouse. with all these extended friends at all these different weddings, these different groups of families that the siblings a marrying into and friends of theirs. surely there someone they can introduce to Jana. come on John duggar step up and find somebody for Jana.
ReplyDeleteMaybe Jana hasn't met the right one yet. She's probably had lots of guys interested in her.
DeleteJana knows what she wants in a mate and that needs to be respected. I waited to marry the man I love till age 54 and it was sooooo worth it! I did not want to marry just cause everyone else was getting married. I had many very nice men who wanted to propose but I did not feel ready yet and it only would have fallen apart later. Jana has not felt many others were the right one for her and she will marry when she feels the match was made in heaven. Only God has the one who will marry her.
DeleteI thought Abbie was mature and then she pulled "Sugar Muffin" out of the hat. Still chuckling. JD will be stuck with that forever.
ReplyDeleteI think the vows were so sweet. My husband and I have been married almost 30 years. He is a Southern Baptist and I am Roman Catholic. Marriage is considered a sacrament in the Catholic Church, so writing vows are not permitted, My mother was against women submitting to their husbands. She chose the Scriptures to be read and I chose the hymns and my husband was happy not to have to worry about anything except showing up. I was an only child, as was my husband and because both of his parents had passed away before we met, he was happy to let my parents have their day....
ReplyDeleteI agree these weddings are starting to have an-upstaging-the-last-couple feeling. Drones, scaling down rafters, silly ring pops, kissing arms, hands, foreheads...they have become the next “big act”. I think, sadly, the Duggars have become the “negative attention is better than no attention” family. Trying to keep viewership. I hope they return to their original roots of a large family trying to live Godly lives.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you. I think they've become enamored of their spot in the public eye and enjoy out doing each other.
DeleteI agree with most of your post. The Duggars clearly enjoy being in the spotlight and appearing on TV. However, I don't have any reason to think they are any less "Godly" than they were prior to their rise to fame and fortune.
Delete3:39. I’m the OP. I can see how you interpreted my last sentence as them being less Godly due to the antics. That wasn’t my intent just miscommunication through interment blogging! I do, however, think the fame and fortune has somehow lessened their openness about their Christian walk as honestly we see and hear very little of it anymore. That’s what I was trying to say:)
DeleteJD is going to "lead" his wife? I guess these folks would be opposed to having a woman president. I think it's high time we had one!
ReplyDelete@10:47 We almost had one. I hope everyone is enjoying what happened instead.
DeleteAmen! I want our country to have a female President so badly! Maybe in 2020...
DeleteHmm... I feel that talking about politics on a family blog Is just taking it too far!
DeleteOne of the primary roles of a husband in the Bible, then, is to lead. Leadership simply means influence. Therefore, a biblically-based husband should influence his family. Husbands are not dictators, they should not demand, they should not rule over their wives. Instead, husbands should influence their wives and families in accordance with biblical teaching. They should exemplify, with their voice and their actions, attributes that bring glory to God and value to their spouse and family. The fruit of a good biblically-based husband is a strong, confident, spiritually mature wife and family.
DeleteTwo very specific ways a husband influences his home is through his provision and protection. Read scripture s 1 Corinthians 11:3 and Ephesians 5:21-24. The Duggars follow a biblical lifestyle.Hope this helps you understand. 😁
The problem comes when people vote for a woman for president simply because she is a woman. While I'm not against having a woman for president, I would only vote for her if she has the right standards and morals - not simply because she is female. If you think not voting for someone just because she's a woman is wrong, then the opposite is also true.
DeleteYep, I agree, 2:15. Gender is nowhere near as important as character, wisdom, or experience.
Deleteanon@2:15- Whose standards and morals do you hold as superior? Would you only vote for a evangelical Christian? What about a Catholic or atheist? I think a huge problem is when people vote based solely on their religious beliefs and expect the law of the land to reflect that.
Delete6:31. I think it's a huge problem for people to be discouraged from voting their conscience, which is often based on their religious beliefs. If their candidate wins, then the majority of voters agreed with them, and that's what our electoral system is all about.
DeleteAs a woman, I couldn't care LESS if my President is a woman or man. I'm looking for results.
Delete7:29 -- I'm totally enjoying it and, actually, thanking God for it. Thanks.
Delete@6:31 - I hold God's standards and morals as superior. He sets them forth very clearly for us in His Word, if only we'll look for them, believe them, and not try to twist them. So no, I do not agree with an atheist's beliefs and would not vote for one.
DeleteI thought this was a beautiful wedding... love just shown from both of them. I thought it was uniquely them -- from the sparkly bridesmaids dresses to the getaway conveyance being a plane. I was impressed with Lauren and Josiah's duet. Lauren has a beautiful voice. I understand there was another song sung by Oliva Collingsworth who is from the Collingsworth family musical group of whom I'm a big fan. I would have loved to have heard her sing also. I'm so glad that John David found his love and I wish them much happiness through the years.
ReplyDeleteI think John David & Abbie's Wedding was everything they wanted it to be. When have we ever seen John David so happy & smiling so much? It was a great episode. If anyone has any negative comments they need to keep them to themselves & remember that these are real people with real feelings. Only positive comments & lots of love for this new couple.
ReplyDeleteI find it interesting that everyone has a problem with her calling JD sugar muffin at the end of her vows. At the end of my vows I said I love you My Dork cause that's what I call my hubby and at the end of his he said I love you My Nerd because that's what he calls me. I thought it was cute then and now
ReplyDeleteI think it's silly to make a big deal about it. Their wedding, let them do what they like!
Deleteif you and your husband call each other by uncomplimentary nicknames so be it. At least Abbie's nickname for John was silly not disrespectful. I'm always uncomfortable around couples who use demeaning terms toward each other.
Delete4:29 we arent using them in hurtful manors or the disminsh each other. He has done some pretty dorky stuff that I call him my dork and he likes to call me his nerd cause I always have my nose in a book. They way we say it to each other you can hear the love thru is. No one who has heard it has every made a big deal about it. They ask how those names came about and we tell them. One of my husband's favorite shirts is the one I got him that says ”Come to the Dork Side" I gave it to him for our first Christmas in front of his older sister and she laughed because of it. I love my husband with my whole heart, and would go to the ends of the Earth with him. When he came in to my life, he saved it and I mean that literally. We also respect each other as all couples should. So please don't judge my relationship on what little you know from my post. I stated what I did because at my wedding in our vows we used nicknames in them too. Everyone should be able to say what they want in their vows. Without judgement..
DeleteAnon 2:52 Your "love language" is interesting, but don't be surprised when your children start repeating your terms of endearment to total strangers at the most embarrassing possible moment.
DeleteI feel like this marriage was “arranged” in an indirect way, by the parents on both sides. They needed a little help finding the right one that shared their same beliefs, etc. I don’t see anything wrong with that. They seemed to skip several steps and leaped right into marriage. I can’t wait to see who Janna marries one day. I feel like she feels obligated to stay home and take care of her younger siblings.
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