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She's wearing something other than the jean skirt! These are the outfits the girls should wear....modest but also modern!! I'm so happy for both of them!!
ReplyDeleteWhy aren't we seeing a ring? Does she not have one? :)
ReplyDeleteShe has one on in the video but I would really like to see it.
DeleteIf you click on the first picture sit zooms in and she has one on her left hand.
DeleteShe is quite the young lady! Beutiful pictures and I love her dress!
ReplyDeleteWhat a cute couple they are going to be a beautiful wife and nice husband they are going be good parents
ReplyDeleteShaaa they finally get to hold hands :)
ReplyDeleteI'm curious when tank tops ( do not say those are capped sleeves) became modest in their household? Because according to their standards all these years, the cute clothes they are now wearing, are oh so different from what they've always described as modest. I'm just curious.
ReplyDeleteYou still have to admit, that her attire is still modest. Modern, but modest. I would hope the people who visit and comment on this site would not be so critical. They are living life as best as they can. They are not perfect, they are human. Accept them as such.
DeleteI was thinking the same thing! And notice the skirts are shorter too! Never use to show their knees! I love it but wondered what happened to the strict modesty policy too!
DeleteI feel like Jessa will not dress as modest as her siblings because Ben was wearing shorts when they went on their mission trip...so I think his values will mold with jessas values and the way she dresses will change
DeleteIt's not immodest of Ben to wear shorts... What difference does it make. I'm sure duggars wear shorts too. And Jessa I'm sure will do what she thinks is modest and pleasing to The Lord.
DeleteWhy no ring???
DeleteThey don't wear shorts I'm pretty sure they said that in an episode.....and I'm not saying it's immodest...he was just raised with different standards than the duggars
DeleteOne other thing I would like to say is that now that the daughters are getting married - they will have their own mindset as far as how they and their husbands deal with life. No longer daddy's little girls but married women. That will be very different for them I'm sure.
ReplyDeleteWhere are they going to live? In Grandma Duggar's house or will they live closer to Ben's family?
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely LOVE these pictures! They look so happy and in love. Jessa looks stunning, love her outfit, can't wait to see more engagement pics! Thanks for sharing! ~ Stacy
ReplyDeleteWhen will a ring picture be revealed? I really want to see it! :)
ReplyDeleteSo glad for you both! When's the wedding
ReplyDeleteI love her dress!!!😀
ReplyDeleteWhat beautiful photos! I am so happy for Ben and Jessa! Jessa's dress is very cute!
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ReplyDeleteI think that you can define Jessa's shirt can be defined as a capped sleeve. It covers a good portion of the shoulder, unlike most tank tops.Thus defining it as a capped sleeve. The Duggar family is still extremely modest, they've just shifted into a more modern version of modesty. I find Jessa's outfit to be both cute, and modest. Also, the clothes they used to wear were tailored to that time. Outfits today are completely different than those of say, 10 years ago. Does that make sense? The Duggar girls have always been very classy, and modesty, and continue to do so. I hope this helps! -M.
Love her outfit.
ReplyDeleteI wouldn't call that a tank top. a tank top has straps. but Michelle has always said it's up to each daughter to set her own modesty standards. as she gets older just as it's up to each couple to set their own courtship standards.
ReplyDeleteLove the skirt on Jessa- nice to see the length a little shorter than usual. A very nice looking couple
ReplyDeleteAm i seeing things or is that dress above her knees and its showing her shoulders? I hope i am not being rude in asking this question and i hope it doesnt sound rude. If it does please forgive me but i was just curious since their family believes in modesty and everything. I mean,, i do too. I believe in modesty and all that too. But i was just curious. (Btw the dress is very cute:) ) Congrats to the happy couple. God Bless yall Ben and Jessa!!!!!! Cant wait to see a picture of the ring!
ReplyDeleteWe have seen other pictures of Jessa and Ben with her knees showing, though the skirt was still a long one.
DeleteNovember or December wedding right?
ReplyDeleteWish them all the best!!
ReplyDeleteCute outfit Jessa!!
Jessa's dress is adorable! I wonder where she found it? It's beautiful and modest at the same time.
ReplyDeleteRe Betty #7: Only if Jim Bob and Michelle allow it.
ReplyDelete@Anonymous They were all wearing matching prairie outfits (including Michelle) not so long ago. It all seems a million miles from that now so I also wonder how they square their new found fashion sense with their previous convictions
ReplyDeleteI am so excited to see jessa and ben holding hands now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteJessa is gorgeous inside and out - absolutely stunning
ReplyDeleteAnonymous 6: Those are definitely capped sleeves.
ReplyDeleteI wonder what kind of job 19 year old Ben has now that would make Jim Bob give him his blessing to marry his daughter. Jim Bob is rightly concerned that the young man should have a job that can support a family.
Some guys are unsure about what to pick out and some girls like to choose. This way everyone is happy.
ReplyDeleteLast picture would be nice for banner ladies
ReplyDeleteI am glad to see modest, but lovely and modern choices with the girls as of late. No man should be dictating WHAT a girl wears as long as it is tasteful and modelst. Very pretty. It is nice to see some of the older rules being loosened up. At one point all women and girls looked like one another, even the Duggars. They are finding some distinctions now and still glorifying the Lord in all they do.
ReplyDeleteDoes he have a job or a place to live to provide and support a wife or family?
ReplyDeletePicture of the ring?
ReplyDeleteSo excited for you guys!!
ReplyDeleteI love Jessa's dress!!!
ReplyDeleteThey make an adorable couple, Jess will be a beautiful bride! I would love to see a picture of her engagement ring!
ReplyDeleteSuper cute!
ReplyDeleteI love all the duggar girls clothes! Where do they get such modest clothing?
ReplyDeleteAlways pour God's word into your home ;) And learn new wisdom too!
ReplyDeleteI have also been a bit curious lately about the clothes the girls are wearing. So different to how we saw them dressed in the early episodes of the show and even up to a couple of years ago. Sleeveless dresses and tops and skirts on or slightly above the knee these days. It doesn't bother me though because they are beautiful young women and why hide what God gave them. (By the way I am female - not some male ogling the girls :) )
ReplyDeleteI think Jill&Derick now live in a house, which was shown in some episodes before. Maybe Jessa&Ben will bee living in the old Josh&Anna house? It will be close to the family. I don't think that Jim Bob and Michelle would want Jessa to move to Hot Springs.
ReplyDelete@Anonymous- maybe since they are adult women now, they choose their own modesty standards.
ReplyDeleteBeautiful pictures of Ben and Jessa. Will they be having a winter wedding?
ReplyDeleteI'm soooo excited for them! I can't wait for the new season to come out!! Also their clothes are starting to become more morden and the skirts are getting shorter each year. I hope that they stay modest and can't wait for their wedding!!!
ReplyDeleteThey are such a cute couple! But what happened to wearing skirts that do not show knees. And I'd say that shirt does not match the standards. Married or not u should set standards and keep them.
ReplyDeleteI believe God does not care if u wear shirts(girls) or shorts(boys). I do however believe you should always dress modestly.
ReplyDeleteI hate to bring this up, but I think this is the least amount of clothing I have seen any of the Duggar girls wearing:/
ReplyDeleteThe dress is pretty modest compared to what you see now a days. It has sleeves and covers the knee.
ReplyDeleteI think this entire family's mode of thinking will change with the "older ones" leaving home. I bet my bottom dollar you will not see 19 children being born to any of them.
ReplyDeleteI think it is so cool that the girls wait for their first everything for tjeir wedding day.I am the only one in my family who thinks so, and my family makes fun of me and them. Im glad i have somewhere to go, which is this site, so i feel like i have people who are the same and i can speak freely without being judged.Thankyou, Lilly and Ellie, and The Duggar diehard fans:-)
ReplyDeleteI'm so exited for them !!! Beautiful pictures and can't wait for the wedding
ReplyDelete-Brittany :)
the book 'a love that multiplies' states that jessa and jinger started their own 'duggars modern-modest clothing line'. since that was written a couple of years ago, i dont know if they are still doing it but i do like how they have been wearing more 'young adult' type clothing now that they are young adults.
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ReplyDeletejust want to say thank you for all the extra posts you've done in the last couple of days! it's been a whirlwind couple of months for the duggars and you've done an excellent job keeping us up-to-date.
I think they may begin to go by their own Modesty Standards as they get older. And that outfit is WAY more modest than what girls her age are wearing today. That's for sure!
ReplyDeleteAnd Anonymous 6..... That's not a TANK TOP.... that is capped sleeves...
ReplyDeleteYoung ladies do not need skirts as long as little girls because their actions are more refined. It has nothing to do with standards changing and everything to do with them not standing on their heads or rolling down hills. These girls are still amazing models of stylish modesty.
ReplyDeleteooohhh I see grandduggars in the VERY near future....
ReplyDeleteWhat happened to Ben's family over the years as Mrs. Seewald's wedding dress neckline would NOT be considered modest by the Duggar/Seewald standards today. I think it was a pretty dress and nothing wrong with it. Just can't follow these families and their "changing" beliefs.
ReplyDeleteWhere did you see the his mothers wedding dress? I would like to see it also please.
DeleteStill very modest looking. She is a beautiful 22 year old .
ReplyDeleteWow...Congratulations to the new engaged couple:) It also looks like the Duggar's "modesty" standards have changed lately. Although, they like to call it a "cap sleeve", Jessa's blouse in this photo is almost a sleeveless blouse (you can see her shoulder) and her skirt is just at knee length or even slightly above. Do the duggars still have the same modesty policies or have they made some recent changes? It's be nice if they provided an update on this:)
ReplyDeleteRemember Michelle once said that the girls have their own thoughts and views about modesty she said it during the episode the Richard say yes to the dress
ReplyDeleteI just wish that Ben and Jessa had more time to mature like Derrick and Jill . Derrick had a few years after college to go off on his own, see the world, and grow as a man.Im afraid Ben has not had as much life experience yet.Everyone is also wondering how Ben will support her, well thats easy,he is now a paid employee of TLC and once he is married toJessa her money will be their money and she had a recent successful book to add to her monies along with royalties from the show.However, i really do wish this couple luck and hope hope it all works out, I'm sure it will.
ReplyDeleteIs it just me or do the Duggars think that tank tops are cap sleeves.Cap sleeves slightly go over the shoulders, right?
ReplyDeleteCorrect! :)
Delete#35 in stores where I shop they are called a tank top. I have blouses with capped sleeves and it's different then this cute blouse she's wearing. AND to others I wasn't being critical but curious. There is a difference. I love the way they dress. I was just wondering from what they've always said on their show. Goodness!!
ReplyDeleteHer knees? Her capped sleeves vs sleeveless? How about her witness every single day of her life that is filmed and chronicled not only on this blog, but on the nasty blogs and news. I am willing to be the Lord is less interested in the length of her dress and her sleeves than the fact that she takes every opportunity she gets to spread the message of salvation through Christ alone (Rom. 10:9) to every living soul. Come on people. Take a breath.
ReplyDeleteJessa can, of course, have the wedding she wants, but are we going to have to put up with 20 bridesmaids, children too young to be in a bridal party who are stressed and crying having to be pulled up the aisle again?
ReplyDeleteI think its Jessa's day and if she wanted 20 bridesmaids and children of any age is great! Most weddings have children in it that don't always cooperate and that is usually one of the highlights! I am grateful she will more than likely share her big day so we can all see it!
DeleteMy Congrats!
ReplyDeleteYou have to wonder how Jinger is going to take Jessa moving out since they have always been so close. I definitely see Jinger as the maid of honor.
ReplyDeleteI just wish that Ben and Jessa had more time to mature like Derrick and Jill . I wish the best for them and am certain the family will be close by to help the kids.
ReplyDeleteI wish that people would stop bring so judgemental!! Jessa is an adult now and even though she lives with her family, can make her own decisions and wear whatever she wants so wear. I think that she looks very modern and modest in this outfit. I wonder if everyone who has posted a comment ridiculing jessa for her outfit apply the Duggar modesty standard in their household. I don't, and don't see a problem with it. It's the world we live in. Grow up people. Just because everyone else in the world don't dress and do everything exactly the way you do doesn't mean that they should be publicly, or mentally, shamed. The Duggars don't judge and I respect and honor their choices in their household, WITHOUT holding a grudge. It's okay to be different, people!!
ReplyDeleteSo happy for Ben and Jessa! They make a very nice match. And their kids are going to be gorgeous!!! Can't wait to see the engagement wand wedding unfold.
Sad to say ,but people will forever be judgemental.We could scream till we're blue in the face and still to no avail the people will criticize and judge anything that different than them.All we can do is try to pray the hate away and not let it get to you or it will ruin your day.:-)
Deleteawesome!! so glad for them!! :)
ReplyDeleteHow exciting, I wondered if an engagement was coming. I am glad they took their time and got to know each other, they were both pretty young when they started courting. I think saving yourself for your wedding day is wonderful. I had one kiss with my husband when we got engaged, then on our wedding, Who cares what she is wearing, I think it is beautiful and still modest. They live a Godly and christian life and that is what is the most important. I wish them all the happiness in the world
ReplyDeleteThey are SUCH a cute couple! I also wish that people would not be so critical. The duggars are very modest, appropriate peole and can make their own choices. So if they rhink that that outfit is modest they may have their own thoughts. I wish them. The VERY best with their wedding. We 💜the duggars! Have a happy life jessa and ben! 💍
ReplyDeleteI would like everyone to stop ridiculing jessa for her outfit to stop. Im sure they are atill alot more modest than most of the people writing on this blog. I have absolutelly NOTHING wrong with jessas outfit. She is absolutelly BEAUTIFUL. Just curious on an update on their current ideas of "what to and what not to wear". I guess you could say their modesty standards. CONGRATS U GUYS!! IM SURE RHEIR WILL BE MANY MANY GRAND BABIES!!!
ReplyDeleteWow! You people are weird!! Jessa's outfit is for sure MODEST!! Her skirt goes below her knees but is flowing in the wind. And even if its not flowing in the wind than its less than an inch above her knees! She has sleeves on and therefore its not a tank top!
ReplyDeleteThere is totally nothing wrong with a guy wearing gym shorts. For heavens sake, they are knee length or below with an elastic waistband, and very cool in the summer and comfortable. Jessa is finally making a move in the real world with her dress. It is not immodest, IMO at all, and she finally looks stylish. As a previous poster wrote, what difference is it what she wears, as she promotes God and religion, having said that poster, why would it make a difference to God if the Duggars dress frumpy? It is a waste of their time with their "uniform".
ReplyDeleteThe important thing is that we dress in a way that pleases God because if we dress immodest and say we are a Christian and look like the world or worse I don't think we are being a good testimony by doing that if we are saved our body is the temple of The Lord and we need to please him with our attire, if we are saved we should stand out and look different than the world. I'm very thankful to know Jesus Christ as my personal Lord and Savior!
DeletePlease tell us where Jessa's outfit is from! I am in love with it! Feel like she could start a modest fashion blog. Know lots would follow!
ReplyDeletePeople are not being judgmental just because they observe and inquire about the Duggar family's modesty standards (especially since these are standards that the Duggars have set from themselves and chosen to discuss often on the show)! I think it's pretty natural for viewers to inquire about the family's dress standards and whether there have been any changes. And btw, just because someone wears pants, tank tops/sleeveless shirts, etc. doesn't make them immodest. I think a person's modesty standards are ultimately between them and the Lord (and if they have a spouse or are a minor, etc).
ReplyDeleteThe girls don't set their own courtship standards. Michelle said "daddy permits a side hug for coming and going and photos." That is not the girls setting the standard. That would be daddy. The peopple should be wearing what they feel good to wear. Both for the comfort and modesty. For some that is shirt with no sleeve, for some it's just making you can't see armpits.
ReplyDelete@AnonymousI think it's modest and they are capped sleeves:).Lol!!:P
ReplyDeleteI think all the Duggars standards of not showing the knee went out the door! I see Michelle is wear knee length skirts as well. They are at that length that can be considered what they once declared as immodest! On several episodes I noticed the girls with knees & a few inches of thigh showing! My 15 yr old son was the first to say " Nike" they really need to practice what they preach on the whole modesty issue...
ReplyDeleteI'm really getting sick of all the judgmental people on here. (Excluding those who are honestly curious about the Duggars stance on Modesty). It is not our place to judge these beautiful young women. They are grown women and can make their own decisions on modesty. And others are right, times are moving forward. The Duggars are proving that modesty can be both completely modest, and yet cute and modern at the same time. Surely we are above such judgement. I find Jessa's outfit to be completely modest, and cute at the same time. Honestly, one person's interpretation of modesty is going to be completely different than the next, that's just how it is. So what you find to be immodest might be completely modest to the next person.
ReplyDeleteLet us all try to find it in our hearts to stop judging the Duggar girls. They are doing the best they know how, and are trying to be a positive example to many. Please leave them alone, they don't need our hate.
I wish Jessa and Ben had more time to mature like Jill and Derrick. Being so young, and the hormones raging... it can be a confusing time for an immature inexperienced couple. They confuse that with ...."oh we are so in love." How do they know what they love? It's the excitement of playing grown up. They should both take a cold shower and gather more life experience. Jim Bob should be more protective and put his foot down. But another wedding will bring ratings.
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ReplyDeleteMore time to mature like Jill & Derek? Jessa & Ben were together for a year (officially, they've actually been together longer than that), took the time to spend time together and nurture their relationship before getting engaged. Meanwhile Jill & Derek met over the internet, got engaged after just 3 months of courting, and quickly got married less than 3 months after that. They've barely even known each other a year. Just because they are older does not mean they are more mature to handle a relationship than Jessa and Ben.
I think this outfit is the most complementary that Jessa has ever worn. The color is great for her. It is also completely modest. She looks gorgeous. Some of you people seem to think she should post an outfit and ask you if she can wear it. Don't mean to be insulting, but come on!
ReplyDeleteJessa clothes looks wrinkle, the outfit would look better if it had been ironed. Someone should had looked out for her since her pictures are seen by everyone. Wish them best of luck.
ReplyDeleteI'm a huge fan of your show! Congratulations Jessa and Ben! Is there a way that I could meet the whole Duggar family? I would greatly appreciate that! I love you guys! I am baptist too. I'm just not as committed to The Lord as I would like to be. I would like to be more like your family. If you can't answer me, that's ok. I know you get a lot of
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with Anonomous 68!!
ReplyDeleteDon't be too legalistic. The Bible tells us to dress modest but it does not say what length our skirts should be. The most important thing is the heart and not the clothes.
Sara from Sweden
I am surprised people expect no judgement about the Duggars. This family are exposing themselves so this is inevitable will judge, or observe.
ReplyDeleteI wonder what the Duggar girls, specifically Jessa, would think if they read these comments!
ReplyDeleteIm sure Jessa Looks at comments out of coureosity...
Delete21yr old jessa legally can drink at her wedding but 19 yr old ben cant.
ReplyDeleteI don't think that's going to be a problem... They don't drink alcohol ... At all
DeleteJessa doesnt drink anyways, so she probably could care less about liquor.
DeleteCongratulations, Ben and Jessa. I don't care about your pretty dress or that Ben wears shorts. I care about your testimony and that you are a follower of Christ. I thank God for you and the Duggars. I thank God that you are not afraid to tell others that you follow Christ and his teachings. Michelle Duggar has given me hope as a mother. I look forward to seeing your journey in life, thank you for inviting us into your home to be a part of it. May God Bless you both.
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ReplyDelete20 year old Josh couldn't drink at his wedding, and neither could 20yr old Anna. And considering that the Duggars don't drink at all, what's the point of this comment other than to try to belittle Jessa's fiance?
to Lilk. The Duggar's don't believe in Drinking so that doesn't really matter.
ReplyDeleteI still feel that 19 is too young to get married. Maybe they should wait until they are a little older to be married like Derick and Jill did.
ReplyDeleteI just wish everyone that visits this site would be fun and lighthearted.The Duggars are such nice sweet people.I know everyone is entitled to their opinion, but this world would be such a better place if people were as nice as this family is .Im a Christian(Catholic) who lives completely different then they do.I have learned alot of useful information from them. I truly love and respect every last one of them.As for Ben, I hold no grudges and am not angry with him at all.He and many many others are just passionate about their Religion and what has been taught to them since birth.Im sure Catholics and other sects have judged them more than once,heck I'm guilty too. Thats how people are, and its not going to change any time soon or ever.I will pray for this wonderful family every night and continue being a loyal follower of TLC greatest hit show.Lets all just play nice and be thankful we have a cool blog site to visit without the fear of filth or evil making it through.Thanks again Lily and Ellie for that.Sincerely, the Biggest fan ever! :-)
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ReplyDeleteI am not positive, but I don't think the Duggars drink alcohol anyhow
To Anon. 52 (Aug 17, 2:10 a.m.) My heart went out to you when I read your post. I would venture to say you are far from the only one in that situation. I am praying the Lord will give you strength to keep standing for Him. There are great rewards both here and in Heaven for doing so! :) May the Lord bless you, and keep you strong! :) Matt. 5:11,12.
ReplyDeleteI don't think Jessa is going to drink anyway. Are they even planning on serving alcohol at the wedding?
ReplyDeleteBen and Jessa wouldn't drink its against their religion. I have seen women dress far less modest then this dress and it was at church. Her dress is just fine. Its modest too me.
ReplyDeleteNeither drink due to their beliefs (at least not in public:) And, I think the Duggar girls read these comments.
ReplyDeleteWhy on Gods green earth would the Duggar girls ever want to read the comments on this blog.Maybe if the comments were all nice and loving, but clearly thats not the case.I certainly would not want to read negative opinions about me or my families looks,or choices,or actions, and neither would any of you.However there is plenty more on this site that they can enjoy besides the rude comments.I dont this this statement is rude,profane derogatory, or in poor taste towards the Duggars, its just the opposite.
DeleteThey do not drink so it wont matter much what age they are.
ReplyDeleteThe Duggar boys do not wear shorts. When they appeared in the COURAGEOUS movie, several of them did wear shorts, but it was referred to as "being in costume".
ReplyDelete#64 totally agree. Ben is going to married a wealthy girl. They are not going to be stress financially and with their connections Ben will offered very soon some kind of business or education, and yes, Jim Bob probably already bought them a house. So, people, don't worry about Ben, he is situated. And, frankly, they do not care what do you think. They have their business running:)
ReplyDeleteWHY SUCH A FOCOUS ON HER OUTFIT? SHE CAN WEAR WHAT SHE WANTS. GOD WILL STILL LOVE HER!
ReplyDeleteOkay people really! Saying Ben and Jessa need to be older... FOR REAL! You've forgot that age isn't as important as maturity! The way they have gone about there realashionship is more mature than Jill and Dereks. And nobody makes fun or puts down JandD. Maybe everybody just bashes Ben because he is not smooth and easy in front of cameras like Derek is... I don't know but I think that he's different and shy and that is OKAY!!!!!!! Give him a break! How would you like it if the whole world was criticizing your boyfriend or girlfriend? Is he/she perfect? Are you perfect!? GIVE BEN AND JESSA A BREAK!!!! They are trying there best to listen to God's will for them and there lives... I'm sure they have prayed about it and it's none of your business if Ben has the best job ever! It's there life so just leave them alone!!
ReplyDeleteJessa's dress was perfectly modest and very very very CUTE! I've seen quite a few comments different places about her makeup so I just thought I'd say THE WAY SHE DOES HER MAKEUP MAKES HER LOOK GORGEOUS! And it's okay to want to look like the knock out BEAUTIFUL girl she is! So sorry this was so long but I LOVE BEN AND JESSA AND SHE IS VERY MODEST! And both of them are super hot! ;)
Congrats Ben and Jessa God Bless Y'all!!! And congrats Jill and Derek! :)
@#GRACE
I see a knee!
ReplyDeleteCongratulations to you both on your engagement!
ReplyDeleteJessa looks absolutely stunning in these photos. Ben is a dapper lad as well. Also, do I see a little knee showing there?!!! Uh-oh. Things certainly are changing. ;)
@Anonymous
ReplyDeleteAnd baby makes three!
@Anonymous
ReplyDeleteAre the girls allowed to tie their hair back? I've never seen them that way. The Arkansas summers must be stifling.
Wondering what led to the loosening up on the modesty rules. Also, I've never seen the girls wear their hair any way but down. Are they allowed to tie their hair back? Those Arkansas summers must be stifling.
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