Tune in to TLC tonight at 9PM EST/8PM CST for an all-new, hour-long episode of 19 Kids and Counting: "Love & Marriage."
For the first time, Jim Bob and Michelle talk candidly about marriage, babies, and everything in between as they head off to a marriage retreat in Puerto Rico to build on their strong relationship. Meanwhile, can Grandma hold down the fort back home while they are away?
Speaking of relationships, let's see what the Duggar girls have to say:
For the first time, Jim Bob and Michelle talk candidly about marriage, babies, and everything in between as they head off to a marriage retreat in Puerto Rico to build on their strong relationship. Meanwhile, can Grandma hold down the fort back home while they are away?
Speaking of relationships, let's see what the Duggar girls have to say:
I like that, Dating with a purpose, would that be kinda more like courtship or dating?
ReplyDeletelove the duggar girls! they all look great! they have great thoughts on the subject too=)
ReplyDeleteCan't wait to watch!
ReplyDeleteI LOVE your message to young girls. I think what you have to share to other girls is so important. Keep doing what you are doing. You have the means to reach so many girls out there. This is something I instill in my own daughter and my boys as well. Its important to protect your heart.
ReplyDeleteThank you Girls! Your Mamma raised you right!
wow, beautifully put! i love how they call it "dating with a purpose"
ReplyDeleteThis was a great show. I loved it!
ReplyDeleteI have a question. I have a Christian friend who also is trying to date with the purpose of marriage. However she still has dated a few guys that didn't turn out to be what she thought when she knew him as friends and observed. There is no way someone can know someone is "the one" unless they get to know them much closer. Do you think there is more stress on the Duggars to just marry the first guy they pick (so as not to lose pieces of their heart)? I just don't see how someone can judge true character and relationship personality from a distance.
ReplyDeleteFor Anonymous,
ReplyDeleteI dont think you are grasping what they mean by "dating with a purpose". Firstly, when they decide to date someone it will be with full purity. No intimacy, hence protecting their hearts and protecting them from caring any baggage (as Jim Bob says)going on to the next person. They are not marrying the first guy they go out with. Thats rediculous.
More than likely they will be chaperoned (as Michelle says they are stronger with two)having accountablity. I dont think the stress is there at all if they follow their own rules. Lets not forget Dad is not too far away. Anyway thats my grasp on it all. Hope this helps.
I think it's much easier to judge someone's character from a distance. On a 1:1 date, people put their best foot forward. They're not likely going to throw a tantrum on a date when the purpose is the impress the lady/guy they're with. But when you watch them around their friends/family and see how they react to frustrating situations, how they treat their parents, how they treat their younger siblings or other children - then you can see their character and since it's not a date, they're not trying to impress anyone, they're just being themselves.
ReplyDeleteI was taught to "play the field" and date a lot of guys so I'd know what I wanted in a husband. What silly thinking that was! I knew I wanted a guy who loved the Lord and had a good sense of humor. I didn't need to date anyone in order figure that out!
My question is still how anyone could not lose a piece of their heart if they enter into a courtship relationship that doesn't work out?
ReplyDeleteSeems to me that being pure isn't enough to protect your heart from the pain of a courtship (or dating with a purpose) that ends.
i think it is the courtship mindset with a dating name.=) kind of not just dating for fun but with a future spouse in mind.
ReplyDeleteAnonymous at 6:23pm
ReplyDeleteYou don't just give up your heart to the first guy. You need to be 99% sure that they're the one before you enter any kind of relationship. Be in a group setting as much as possible so you don't have a chance to give your heart away emotionally or any other way.
When leaning on your parents as your guidance in a courtship it really minimizes your chances of being with the wrong guy.
ReplyDeleteI've had personal experiences of my dad seeing things that I didn't notice because at the time I was still in the infatuation stage, where I only looked at the good in the particular young man. My parents were able to guide me and say "Have you noticed this certain character flaw in his life" etc. or did you notice how he talked to his Mom (this is a great way to judge a mans character... by seeing how he treats his mom .) Because we have to remeber that anyone can put on another face to impress someone else.
So as an encourager to all other young ladies choosing the route of courtship.... stand firm in your convictions and remember that the Lord has the best in mind for you. Remember that " "A woman's heart should be so hidden in Christ that a man should have to seek Him first to find her."