Listen to Michelle share her heart with daughter Jubilee Shalom Duggar. The following letter was recorded by the grieving mama and played at Jubilee's memorial service.
Jubilee Shalom Duggar from John Andersen on Vimeo.
Thursday, December 15, 2011
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sorry on your loss will be keeping you and your family in prayers. God Bless you and your family and showing us that kids can be raised to love and listen to parents and help out, your kids are an inspiration to all
ReplyDeleteWhile listening to your letter to Jubliee, I weep. Tears of mixed emotions. Jubliee's tiny hand is a reminder to all that life in the womb is real and precious. Your message will inspire mothers how very blessed we are to be mothers. Thank you Michelle for allowing me to share in every part of your life. Thank you for sharing Jesus. There is no one like you and your family who makes Jesus so real.
ReplyDeleteVery sorry for your lose. I myself have been through the samething. Beautiful letter. And you will definitely see her again
ReplyDeleteThoughts and prayers with you. Kristen B
Very sorry for your lose . I feel for you and with you .my daughter would have been 14 years old on December 18th. And it is still hard to deal with losing her. Thoughts and prayers are with you.
ReplyDeleteKristen B.
New Hampshire
She says she is going to say she has 20 children should she not say 21 cuz of the one she miscarried between josh and the twins??
ReplyDeleteYour tribute to Jubilee is absolutely beautiful as is her name and spirit. I'm so sorry for your loss. But happy to know there's another lovely angel in our heaven's. Though you may not have met to share some photo's of Jubilee, what I have seen have been gorgeous and tasteful with a lot of love in them. God Bless you all and baby Jubilee***
ReplyDeleteLisa
There are tears streaming down my face as I type this. My heart goes out to Michelle.
ReplyDeleteI pray for God's peace and comfort for her and that she would feel surrounded by His love and the love of her family.
After listening to this heartfelt speech I write this in tears as to michelles strength and feeling. My prayers are with you all at this time.I hope in my heart Jubilee is playing with all the other precious children in paradise as i believe our precious Daniel is. He was three when we lost him after a lifelong struggle just to live
ReplyDeleteMay the soul of Jubilee Shalom repose in the highest rungs of Heaven enveloped in G-d's loving grace.
ReplyDeleteMay you be comforted together with the other mourners of Zion and Jerusalem.
How precious. Brought tears to my eyes.
ReplyDeleteGod bless you all. Your children are all an inspiration to us. we pray for you always.Jesus' love is so strong.
ReplyDeletesorry but what about their first miscarried baby caleb? how come michelle forgot to mention him/her?
ReplyDeleteThat was beautiful. And I just love the picture. So sorry for the loss of Jubilee!
ReplyDeleteSo abortion is wrong but exploitatively politicizing your dead fetus for a pro-life photo op is acceptable?
ReplyDeleteThis is a valid post. No vulgarity is used. If your moderators care about truth in the least they won't touch this post (highly improbable).
Why does she say Duggar Grandbaby #22? Isn't #21? Unless she is counting the other baby she miscarried...?
ReplyDeleteJim-Bob's sister has a daughter named Amy. That's where 22u comes from...God Bless!
DeleteI'm slightly confused as to why they don't count the first lost child, Caleb, as one of the children... Where she says she has 20 children - 19 here and 1 in Heaven, shouldn't that be 21 - 19 here and 2 in Heaven?
ReplyDeleteYes, abortion is wrong! I don't know how you can look at these photos and not agree that abortions terminates the life of a real child. And I don't think they were exploiting in these pictures. Everyone grieves in their own way and taking photos of Jubilee helped them find peace. The organization they used to take these photos sole purpose is to take pictures of stillborn babies. so they aren't the only ones to do this, and these photos were leaked. they did not want them all over the web. They were personal pictures for them. But even if they were for political pro-life-which again I don't think they were-, then I say anything that would give cause for a woman or man to think twice about making this decision is a wonderful thing to do
ReplyDeleteLily & Ellie,
ReplyDeleteBut Jubilee + 19 + cousin Amy is 21, not 22...
Not really sure why Michelle doesn't include Caleb, the baby she miscarried after Josh, when she tells people how many children she has. They didn't know the gender of that baby, so maybe that's why? Does anyone have any thoughts on this?
ReplyDeleteYou need to listen again...michelle says 19 here and 2 in heaven.
DeleteYeah it says she has 19 on Earth and 2 in heaven plus if Caleb was born it wouldn't be the J name tradition.
DeleteMichelle and Jim Bob named that boy Caleb because it didn't start out that way, the said after Josh well we're gonna name our second 'Caleb" then Michelle was like no another J name bc we dont want them to feel left out.
DeleteHi Anonymous! (at 10:19 AM)
ReplyDeleteWe wrote that last comment too quickly. You're right, that doesn't make sense. So Michelle is either counting Caleb (the baby she miscarried after Josh), OR she is counting all of the grandchildren and great-grandchildren that Grandma and Grandpa Duggar have from Jim Bob and Michelle. That would be their 19 children on Earth + Jubilee + Mackynzie and Michael.
~Lily and Ellie
I just don't get it!! Why would anyone write something so insensative on this site? Do you really believe that it's your responsibilty to make such disparaging comments during this time? If you don't like the DUGGARS and what they represent then don't comment or better yet, don't follow them. There's a saying," it's better to be silent and thought the fool than to speak out and remove all doubt."
ReplyDeleteWhy do you all keep feeling bad for this lady? She is 40 something years old and her Uterous has had enough!
ReplyDeleteI think the message was condescending to parents that may be worried about feeding their children and that are facing hard times. It is not that they care any less than theirs than the Duggars and it is true the Bible says to be anxious for nothing, but we are human and when there is no money for food on the table, it is human nature to be concerned. We are not all God-like such as Michelle seems to be. The rest of us are just human.
ReplyDeletemany are crtizeing the photo's of Jubilee but to me, they are sweet.Really,it is no different than taking pictures of those whom went to live with God after life on Earth.It is suprisely common to have photographs taken of a stillborn child.My grandmother had pictures taken of her 3 stillborn children born in 1955 and 1957.(two were twins)It was rare but she was happy that her sons were able to recanzie their siblings, Evelyn Ann,Ernest James, and Audrey Taylor. I found out what Jubilee Shalom's name means Joy Peace
ReplyDeleteHeartbreaking. We lost our firstborn when he was just a baby, but he is always counted. When asked how many children I have, it's always "6... with 5 underfoot."
ReplyDeleteWow... how completely incomprehensible their grief is to me... even after hearing Michelle speak of her. Although I do think it's a shame that her 2nd child, the one who they say is single handedly responsible for being the vessle that caused them to change their few point of not only children, but what it means to be a Christian, has been forgotten. If she answers that she has 20 children, that answer should be 21, it's only fair to baby Caleb.
ReplyDeleteThis was so beautiful and that picture of Jubilee's tiny hand is precious. Michelle, you have been in my thoughts every day since you announced this pregnancy. I felt such joy for you and now sorrow. I listen to your words and hear your strength. Thank you for sharing that with us. I hope God blesses you with another baby in the near future.
ReplyDeleteWhen Michelle says 22 Dugger Grandbaby, isn't she including Amy in that count?
I'm so very sorry for the loss of you're Jubilee! Thank you for sharing your grief. When you do see Jubilee again, it may feel like forever and a day for you, but for her it will have only felt like yesterday. Peace and love, Beth
ReplyDeleteoh i am in tears just listening to the beautiful letter to your daughter Jubilee. I wrote a letter to my baby Liam and it was very healing for me to do. Our babies will surely be missed, Michelle. You are so brave and your faith is so inspiring. HUGS to you.
ReplyDeleteIn Christ's love,
Michelle
I know the pain of your loss first hand. My son left to be with Jesus just 1 month before his due date. I proudly state that I have 2 children as well. One here and one in heaven. The pain of loss is great but knowing our children, your 20th, my first are with the Lord is of extreme comfort. God Bless you all.
ReplyDeleteMaybe Michelle's grief and all of the physical ramifications of losing a baby, as well as the exhaustion of still caring for her family and helping them cope with their grief has something to do with the small slip...can it be that she hasn't forgotten that she lost Caleb but rather that she misspoke? We have all, in a stressful time said something that wasn't accurate. I'm sure that Michelle will address this in time. Give the poor woman some grace. If you can't be kind then don't add to her and her family's pain by making unkind and unnecessarily cruel comments. There is freedom of speech and there is ugliness for its own sake. It is a good reminder for all of us that when we stoop down to the gutter for our words we wound our own soul.
ReplyDeleteI had the same thought about the first miscarried baby not being counted...she probably has so many emotions going on with the miscarriage, along with still having to manage her daily life with her large family that she simply forgot. Let's not be so critical of her. I've had 2 abotions that I will forever regret and when asked how many children I have I still only count the ones here with me :(
ReplyDeleteyes...what about the baby that is in heaven already? her 1st miscarriage after josh? wasn't that the reason they stopped preventing children? i've had a miscarriage and it's not something easily forgotten......
ReplyDeleteI don't think people who have not had family of a late loss/stillborn baby know how common it is to have pictures to remember by. This is probably the 1St they have ever heard of it. My sister in-law had a stillborn at 35 weeks she has a whole photo album of her. I had a loss at 16 weeks. I only have 1 photo, the hospital took it, as I didn't think about a camera as I walked out the door that day. The hospital also did feet impressions. His hand had stated to sluff.
ReplyDeleteShe is grieving. I think the letter was beautiful. I know exactly how she feels!
ReplyDeleteUgh Seriously people!!! Leave the Duggars alone!!! Those pictures are lovely and Jubilee will always know she was loved!! I lost a baby Emma ten years ago and would have given anything to have a photo of her. That was not an option to me at the time. Michelle, you did a beautiful thing and Jubilee will never be forgotten. I'm soooo sorry for your loss. Love, Jen xoxoxo
ReplyDeleteLily And Ellie,
ReplyDeleteCan I PLEASE see some photos of Jubilee. I dyin to see some. Please? Hope God Blesses Mchelle With a new baby soon!
I have lost 3 babies.2 were born still and my son Will was born at 24 weeks and lived for 11 days.I know how precious life is and how hard this is for your family.My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family Michelle.You have never entered the club of Angel Mommy.I hope and pray Jubilee is enjoying the riches and wonder of heaven with my sons Billy,Cayden and Will.
ReplyDeleteso sorry for your loss , it is very hard when you lose someone that is loved so very much and wanted just the same ... I listened to your letter to little Jubliee and it was so heart felt and showed just how much she was loved and wanted and Im sure she is in the arms of a family member watching over you and your family and waiting for the day that she meets you again ... God bless you Michelle ....
ReplyDeleteAs a mommy who lost a child I feel your pain. I am so sorry that your family is going through this time. God is with your Angel and is holding your family close. The pictures that you have shared are amazing and I wish I had pictures like that. God Bless.
ReplyDeletexoxo
The ending, "Mommy loves you" just made me cry. You could hear the love in her voice. She is so brave to have so much children and 2 miscarriages. God Bless Michelle!
ReplyDeleteI am sorry to hear of your loss, but blessed by your letter. It was so beautiful. My son/daughter was due the same month as Jubilee, and I lost him/her at 11 weeks. We named him/her Adina, for the soldier in 1 Chronicles 11:42, his name means "delicate." God bless.
ReplyDeleteThat was so beautiful, I would have broken out in tears if I even tried recording as she did. It is so sad to hear of their loss, I was so happy when I heard they were expecting number 20, because I thought Josie would be the last. I sure hope they are not discouraged by this and that they will try to have more children! I think they need to make the number even! I will keep the Duggar's in my prayers!
ReplyDeleteThank you for once again taking a tragedy and turning it into a way to point people to Jesus. So sorry for your loss, but thankful for your testimony. Love and prayers going your way.
ReplyDeleteI am so impressed w/ their constant commitment to glorify the Lord regardless of their circumstance - through the great and the really hard they have pointed to Christ. What a blessing they are!!
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry to hear about the loss of baby Jubilee. What a beautiful name! I admire your whole family and how your lives always show to others Jesus working in your lives. Thank you for sharing with us by way of television.
ReplyDeleteA true mother loves her child from the first second she knows she is carrying that precious gift beneath her heart. To have 2 or 22 children is to have 2 or 22 miracles, the physical loss of one tiny miracle breaks many a woman's heart. Remaining Christ-like through grief and loss is a true testament that when you do what God wishes and do it whole heartedly and openly and completey in return, God gives strength, courage and grace each and every day. Thank you Michelle and Jim Bob and all the duggars, for the day to day view into the lives of a family living for Heaven! Rest I Peace Baby Jubilee, you are loved.
ReplyDeleteMay the Lord continue to give you & your family peace & comfort at this time. The pictures & letter were beautiful!
ReplyDeleteLove in Christ,
Lanelle
Hi Anonymous! (11:55 PM on Dec. 16)
ReplyDeleteThere is a picture of Jubilee's hand as the background of the audio letter (http://duggarsblog.blogspot.com/2011/12/michelles-letter-to-jubilee.html). That is the only photo of Jubilee that the Duggars have officially released.
Thanks for reading!
Lily and Ellie
When did Michelle rerecord to say 21 children, 19 here and two in heaven? thousands read and heard the recording the day it was released when she said 20 children, 19 here and 1 in heaven. It wasn't til others said, wait a minute, what about the first miscarriage?
ReplyDeleteI agree, Elizabeth! It's interesting that she re-recorded it (and it's obvious that she just re-recorded that part; you can tell the audio changes). I am all for the Duggars - I was happy when Michelle got pregnant with #20, and I was sad when she lost the baby. For someone who is a Duggar fan, though, I was surprised that Michelle initially left out baby Caleb from the count. Maybe she was still grieving/not thinking clearly. I wonder if, before Jubilee, she told people that she had 20 kids, 19 living and 1 in heaven?
ReplyDeleteI just listened to the recording again and it hasn't changed. She still says "19 here and one in heaven"! Where's the rerecorded version? It's still the same on their website too.
ReplyDeleteI think some people have listen to the video a little closer. She has her numbers correct. She said Jubilee, was going to be baby number 21. They have 19 living babies, that means she did count the first child that she miscarried. So, how did she miss one? How is her numbers off? She said 21. 19 alive plus 2 in heaven, so how is the count off?
ReplyDeleteNice. I thought after getting into a high risk pregnancy the LAST thing you do is a world tour for a reality show. You rest. It makes me so angry that you do not blame yourself for this, Duggars. Posts who criticise Duggars rarely appear in here, thanks to "objective" moderation, but I pray and hope this one does.
ReplyDeleteSo very sorry for your loss. I have four precious angels who today would be 12, 13, 14 and 15 years old. I live each day knowing I will hold them again in Heaven. My thoughts are with you.
ReplyDeletePlease accept my sincere heart felt sorrow for your loss. I personally have lost two and I wish I had photo's of our children. Everyone grieves in there own way. My prayers are with you. God Bless!
ReplyDeleteBarbara in Missouri
In order for the current population on Earth to live sustainably, we would require 3 planets. The purpose of procreation is to replace yourself, not breed like rats. I would like to know what gives you the right to have so many children and burden our already over-populated planet. Sorry for your loss but perhaps it is God's way of telling you that it is time to stop since His beautiful creation (Earth) cannot sustain another member of your family.
ReplyDeleteWhat courage and faith this dear woman had to record this message! Anyone who has had a miscarriage knows the overwhelming grief and love that she is feeling. Even in a time of such overwhelming sadness, her whole being eminates with the love of God and with such peace. She is an inspiration and example to all of us. The picture is just beautiful. It saddens me that with both of our miscarriages, I didn't have the same opportunity to hold and touch our precious babies. It consoles me to think that they are being held and loved by Jesus now. I also will hug our children here on earth just a little harder tonight.
ReplyDeleteMay God bless them always!
Hi Readers!
ReplyDeleteMichelle rerecorded part of the letter. She now says that Jubilee is her 21st child, and she will tell people that she has 21 kids: 19 on Earth and 2 in heaven.
~Lily and Ellie
What? What? What?
ReplyDeleteShe re-recording the ending annoucing the new title of their TV show? You are kidding. They really do bend over to critics yet they still don't get it do they?
Did she really re-recording the ending from 20 Kids 19 here and 1 in heaven to 21 Kids 19 here and 2 in heaven? Incredible. Jimbob always wanted to say he had 20 kids 10 boys and 10 girls "and this is my wife Michelle isn't that wonderful?"
Dear Michelle Jim & Duggar Family,
ReplyDeleteIm am so sorry for your heartbreaking loss. You are all in my prayers. I feel your pain cause I lost twin boys Born on Nov 15th 1999 in the late evening and they both passed away after midnight the 16th. I was 18weeks along. I have a Lung disease and because of that I was told by 4 Dr's that I have i will have to have them early cause carrying to term could kill all 3 of us. Deciding to have them so early was of course the hardest thing i have done or probably will ever do the rest of my life..There is a lot more & I'd like to share my story with you when you feel up to hearing more. you can contact me at penney.d@gmail.com. Peace be with you all God Bless Penney Degand
Anonymous, Shame on you for speaking for God and using it to add more pain to someone who is going through such pain. Check out the Bible to see what it says about God's view of children please. God does not punish His children for having children with death. The statistics for miscarriage are one in three which would mean that your God is a very different God than the one of the Bible. I don't wonder that you choose to remain anonymous.
ReplyDeleteShelly, I think they are referring to when she said (I don't have the quote word for word here) that when anyone asked her how many children she had, she would answer 20.
ReplyDeleteI think your explanation does help clear up some of the confusion--it's a shame to have to defend someone already suffering such a loss simply because they have a large family, isn't it?
Poor Michelle, now having to endure someone bringing criticisms to her attention at such a time. Hopefully, this will satisfy those who are self appointed judges out there. Michelle has been an exemplary Christian role model even in the midst of unimaginable pain and criticism.
ReplyDeleteMichelle, I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your Jubilee. I know that Jesus is with you, and your babe is safe in Him. I pray that He continues to uphold and comfort you and your family. I am so glad you have those beautiful daughters with you to help you thru this time. They are wonderful young women. As mothers we are so blessed to be so close to His creation of life. I truly think that you are an inspiring and Godly woman with a tender heart. God bless you and keep you! As I mourn with you now, I know that one day I will rejoice with you in Heaven! Praise God! I am praying for you.
ReplyDeleteI guess she has so many, she lost count of one or two somewhere.
ReplyDeleteDuggar Family,
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry the your loss of your sweet baby girl. May God be with you and your family as your travel down the road to recovery. Your are an inspiration to all of the mother's out there. You have 19 wonderful, loving and smart children, that are blessed to have you and Jim Bob as parents. God has a reason for every baby brought into this world whether they are here for 1 minute or 100 years, they touch peoples hearts and lives forever. I pray that people give your family the space that you need and stop juding and saying such hurtful things in your time of loss, you have done a better job with your 19 children than what some families do with one child. I commend you for all the love you show to your children. God Bless you all.
The pictures are precious...Jubilee is in GOD's loving hands.
ReplyDeleteWhat a beautiful photograph. Although we took photos, handprints and footprints, I wish we'd taken one like this when our beautiful boy was born sleeping at 5 months. Connor Christian's hand had perfect tiny fingers with fingernails too... It's amazing how perfectly formed these babies are at such a young age. These photos are incredibly personal and are a part of your family journey. Only parents who have lost a much wanted and loved baby, will fully understand the intense emotions around such a beautiful image. My heart and tears go out to you and your family, for the sad loss of your precious Jubilee. She will ALWAYS be a part of your family. Much love, Rebekah
ReplyDeletepraying for your beautiful family
ReplyDeleteThe pictures are so very touching... so much love in that family, no one should judge them
ReplyDeleteDear Duggars: I was so inspired by your letter to baby Jubilee Michelle! My husband and I lost our baby Caleigh Paige as well. It was at a routine appointment when I was on my 24th week of gestation. After a grueling 6 days of induced labor Caleigh Paige was finally delivered. She was a tiny 4 oz. as well. I see that you are getting many negative responses to how you chose to deal with the passing of your daughter.I too, had pictures taken with my baby's little hands and feet and some very private pictures of her in her entirety. Everyone deals with grief in different ways. I knew my little girl even though she did not take a breath on this earth. God gave me and my husband a beautiful baby girl that we got to enjoy so much while she was alive in my womb. God had a purpose for her...some have become clear as to why we had to feel the pain of losing her, but God's purpose for her was not to bless our lives here on earth. He needed her to bless our lives from above. Caleigh will always be with us in one form or another and we feel her love each and everyday. I am equally as greatful that God was the first face that she got to see. How awesome that must have been for her. I know that we will be reunited in heaven one day, but until then I continue to love her from earth to heaven. We honor her whenever possible for we are forever greatful for the time God did share her with us! I never say that I only have 6 children...because I have 7 children...They are all with us in one way or another.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry for your loss. I was there 27 years ago. I think people who have not been through this devistating loss could ever understand the emotions you feel. God bless you and your family.
ReplyDeleteMy heart and prayers go out to you and your family. Our first child was stillborn at 20 weeks in 2008. Even though we have been blessed with three more boys, a 2 yr old and identical 10 mth old twins, our Charlie will always be a part of our family. I, too, have photos of him that I keep in the memory keepsake box we received from the hospital. The box also includes the gown he wore in the pictures and a birth announcement with his footprints. I treasure this memory box. It was a big part of my healing process. I pray you find the same peace. God Bless you all.
ReplyDeleteOur family grieves with you. We recently lost a child as well and it was a terrible experience. It would have been better if there was someone that knew how to say they were sorry for us instead of pitying us.
ReplyDeleteTaking photos is something we wish was even and option for us. Canadians can not choose. Remember that there are more that understand than not.
From ours to yours, we understand.
Love D & M.
Michelle,
ReplyDeleteMy heart rejoices with yours as you begin this journey. As an Angel Mom of 3 precious lives....2 in Heaven and 1 on Earth, I rejoice for the time I spent celebrating the lives of the children I cradled deep within me. No one truly understands the loss of a child unless you experience it firsthand the way many of us have. The best advice that I was given when my first child was welcomed into Heaven's Gates was.....keep your husband close (because he knows you better than anyone), keep your family closer (because they will be supportive of you), and above all, keep God's love in your heart because He never gives us more than we can handle if we trust Him. It will be 13 years this Christmas since our tiniest miracle went to be with Jesus, months before her time, and I have since offered advice from my heart to others in addition to what I mentioned before.....time spent with family is more precious to me than any gift (other than salvation) that I could ever receive because I'll only be here a little while to cherish the moments and the memories.
Keeping you and your family in my prayers as you begin this journey together.
Stephanie
Im so sorry for your family sadness and their loss , I know that Jubilee is with Our Lord in Heaven but humans feel loss here on earth for whom we care for..Im glad the world can finally see the almost whole little human life we carry inside when we abort our own children and think nothing of it .
ReplyDeletePrayer and thoughtwas with your family in this time of loss... I have 3 blessings here on Earth and 3 in heaven lost due to miscarriage. I would love to have been able to hold them or touch thier faces and grieve with them as you did.. You have such strength and hope in your words to your precious Jubliee that can be an encouragement to every mom that experiences this sort of loss... blessings and prayers to you. I will also pray for those that have shown anger in their words towards you as you greive.. God is on your side and can lift you from the darkness of the world.. Blessings and Peace... God bless
ReplyDeletei too lost a baby girl when i was 5 momths along her name was malissa nicole manriquez she would be 32 yrs old now god bless you as jesus heals all hurt i have an only son that is all god blessed me with is 2 and i give jesus the glory for that
ReplyDeleteI can not imagine ever losing a child. I feel for you and your family. I am glad that you have Jesus in your lives. I wish more people did! My sympathy to you all.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry for your loss, just remember God has a perfect plan, and some times we don't know or under stand why, one day it will all be revealed. I ask God to wrap the full armor of god around all of you, to send the comforter and to protect y'all in Jesus' name, They were by the way very beautiful and touching pictures of Jubilee, hugs to each and everyone of you, God bless
ReplyDeleteWhat a beautiful leltter you wrote to your precious baby girl! Praying for you and your lovely family.
ReplyDeleteLisa
I'm sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I hope you all heal from this very soon.
ReplyDeleteIm soooooo sorry for your loss. I hope you and your family are ok. God is looking out for you and god bloss.
ReplyDeleteYour fan. Kristy snyder
I'm sorry for your loose.I hope that everything is ok. Im a big fan i watch you every week. God Bless.I well be keeping you and your family in prayers. I cryed when i was listening to the letter. I wish that it didn't happened. God bless.
ReplyDeleteYour bid fan Kristy snyder
Beautiful. As a mommmy with two here on earth and three in heaven, I must say you captured my thoughts as well. I'm so sorry for your loss.
ReplyDeleteWhy do they think parents of less children love their kids less? It seemed condescending to me. IMO I am pro-life myself but there are some things that should be kept private but again they are on reality tv. I think money talks first. I hope they don't show the service on TV.
ReplyDelete.....Weeping may endure for a night but joy cometh in the morning. Psalm 30:5
ReplyDeleteWhen you all get to heaven one day, Jubilee and her other sibling will run to you with open arms in their new bodies and call you all by name! What a joy to look forward to. Bless you all.
Dottie Libby
....Weeping may endure for a night but joy cometh in the morning. Psalm 30:5
ReplyDeleteWhen you all get to heaven one day, Jubilee and her other sibling will run to you with their new bodies and with open arms and call you all by name. God Bless you.
Dottie Libby
I have loved being a part of your family through my watching of your show. I grieve with you.
ReplyDeleteI am very sorry for your loss.I had two miscarriages as well & then had 3 boys & 1 girl. My 52 year old son died this past Thanksgiving Day, in my & his brother's arms.I feel so blessed to have been his Mother but first of all miscarriages are very hard but time does heal + when you have more that does help.The loss of my son Nov.24.2011 has been very hard
ReplyDeletefor me to handle.I would appreciate prayers for myself & our entire family.Douglas's Mother
I admire your strength during this time. Though a lot of people obviously cannot understand the power in that photograph, you will never know the countless hearts you have touched. It is so so hard to lose a child that you never got to see or hold or touch. It's been over 4 years since we miscarried our first child, and though we have two beautiful blessings now, there is a part of my heart that aches everyday because of that missing piece, and if I consciously think about it (like right now) I can't keep the tears from flowing. There have been so many times when I've wondered if I will ever see my baby, and though I can't explain it, your picture gives me hope that I will. It speaks to my pain and tells me that my baby was real and was alive - and even though I never got to hold her or touch her, she is up there playing right now with your little Jubilee Shalom. Thank you so so much for your strength and courage in sharing this intimate piece of your life.
ReplyDeleteWhat a sweet letter to Jubilee from Michelle. So sad. I think it is sweet how Jubilee will be added to the picture wall. Jubilee is already loved so much and greatly missed. I am sure she was a beautiful baby girl.
ReplyDeleteTo the people with negative comments: Did the people who raised you EVER teach you that if you have nothing GOOD to say, then DON'T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL? My advice would be to take the HIGH ROAD and do so.
ReplyDeleteIf you were to take the book of life, the Textbook of Life, the Bible, you would understand.
Women in their 40's CAN, AND DO, HAVE CHILDREN! We would NOT have our monthly cycles STILL, if God's intention was to NOT want us to have more children.
For those of you who are making this statement that women in their 40's should NOT have children, are you Physicians? Physicians who can honestly state that a woman in her 40's CANNOT/SHOULD NOT have children should be the ONLY people making this statement.
Why are those of you who are negative using the name Anonymous?
I am the SAME age as Michelle, and I WOULD do exactly as she does, exactly the same way, "IF" I were able to.
There IS a Bible verse, Ecclesiastes 3:1 that talks ALL about seasons and reasons. Read it. Maybe you can learn from it like many people have.
The Duggar's and I BOTH agree that CHILDREN "ARE" A GIFT FROM GOD! MANY people feel this TRUTH! That is how they treated Jubilee, no different than ANY of their other children! Jubilee has NOT been treated any other way. She has been treated like ALL the Duggar children. FULL OF LOVE!
I have a photo of my Aunt who was born stillborn. She is IN HER CASKET in front the church on the steps with the family standing all around her. They were SO poor I don't know HOW they were able to afford the casket? My Grandmother gave it to me AFTER I named my daughter what I did. Guess what that babies name was? The SAME name I named MY daughter! I was SO touched that my Grandmother gave that to me. It was from the late 1920's, early 1930's. NOW that baby IS here! She is here! My daughter! Even she thinks it's pretty special. The entire time I was pregnant with her, and my Grandmother KNEW we were going to name a girl if we had a girl, she surprised us! She kept this quiet the entire time!
Throughout history this has been done. It IS a LOSS!
Before criticizing, imagine YOURSELF in this SAME POSITION! What would YOU do if it happened to you? YOU would be grieving JUST as much as the Duggar's! PLEASE DON'T SHOUT OUT CRITICISM because YOU don't know what YOU would do in this SAME predicament. It is heart wrenching!
Michelle DOES talk about Caleb, a LOT. He was even younger than Jubilee when they lost him. Jubilee was MUCH further along than Caleb. When Michelle is interviewed about her children, OR is asked about her births, she ALWAYS adds that after Josh, she had a miscarriage, EVERY TIME. His loss was MUCH earlier in gestation than Jubilee's. She and Jim Bob even both state that Caleb's loss was their determining factor as to their decision to accept whatever and however many children the Lord wanted to bless them with. It was at this point they realized that children ARE a gift from God. Remember, THIS CAN happen to "YOU"! NO ONE is exempt from losing a child before it's time to be born. It IS the Lord's decision. HOW WOULD "YOU" FEEL?
As for the comment about PRO-LIFE, WHAT A GREAT IDEA!! I NEVER even gave that a THOUGHT until I read some of the comments here on this blog! What a terrible thing to say when there is an ENTIRE FAMILY WHO IS GRIEVING! Some of you are SO accusatory, even! How COULD you possibly even think that is what they are doing here? Look at Michelle in the previews on TV, crying her heart out! There is NO underlying reason for the Duggars' doing what they have done except for their LOVE of their children!
I feel that from some of your comments you have taken this FAR out of context.
But, for Pro-Life, it's a GREAT idea! Thanks for that idea!!! Now people CAN see what they are KILLING! You gave ME a GREAT idea! HOW could you KILL something like this REAL HUMAN BEING THAT GOD BROUGHT INTO YOUR LIFE?
This is ALL "my" opinion.
Laurie
To the Duggar's, I am SO, SO, SO SORRY about Jubilee, but you are blessed for the short time you DID get to know her!
ReplyDeleteI know there is only 1 thing I can do for you, and that is to pray for your entire family for the grief, to help you adjust to this loss. I APPLAUD you for doing what you have done. You were able to spend time with Jubilee, love her MORE, and praise God with him for giving her life in the first place by bringing her into your life but then he decided he wanted her back. This was God's decision, and you accepted God's decision VERY honorably! I would not expect you to handle it any other way. I respect you and your family SO much! You are people that others should model themselves after! You are the type of people God works through. It is clearly evident by watching the TV show HOW MUCH LOVE you have for ALL of your children! I have ALWAYS felt this way! It is clearly shown! I know since "I" have watched your show from the beginning, it has CHANGED "MY" LIFE! I was always turning to God, but YOU have turned me to Him even MORE so! I like to try to model MY life after yours! The way you depend upon our Lord is AMAZING! Even in the worst of times. You have such dignity, knowing HE is there and HERE for US all! It's amazing! Amazing Grace! I cannot think of another family, except the Bates, that are SO wonderful as you ALL are!
I am praying for your grief, your loss, and for the Lord to help you get through this time that is SO difficult for ALL of you. I can't imagine it, but I know there is a reason God wanted her back, and we will never know the reason.
I am SO GLAD you are sharing this with the public so other people can model themselves after you doing the Lord's work!
Praise God!
In Jesus' name, may you ALL overcome this loss and know there are MILLIONS of people that would do exactly what you did! It was done in MY family, and MANY others, as well. God Bless you ALL! The ENTIRE FAMILY!!!
I will continue to pray for you! This grief does NOT go away for a LONG time. Maybe never. Perhaps God has one more, still, in store for you? We never know what God's plans are for us. We can only pray for Him to help guide us along the way and to lay our troubles at the bottom of the cross. That, you DO VERY well! I applaud you! I LOVE her name! You are celebrating her, even in a time of loss! You are WONDERFUL people! May God continue to BLESS you and your children!
Laurie
i am so sorry for ur loss. this is the saddest letter i have ever heard but at the same time a love letter to let her know how much she was and is still loved. i praise u for being able to even say this and not break down. i was crying through the whole thing. u r such a strong woman and i am glad in ur sorrow u will be able to help other women go through what u went through.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry for your loss Michelle. I was pregnant with twins after my first daughter and had a miscarriage with both of them. I know that the lord is taking care of them and I think of them each and everyday. The Lord has blessed me with 3 more healthy and happy children. You are a wonderful mom who I look up to and would love to teach my children as you have taught yours.
ReplyDeleteI understand perfectly why Michelle's original recording left out her first loss. I myself have two daughters and have had one ectopic pregnancy and two miscarriages. Although I am pro-life and will never forget how overjoyed I was to find out I was expecting each time, I have always told people that I have two children but have been pregnant 5 times. It doesn't cross my mind to include the other three losses because they were so early that I did not deliver an actual, tangible "baby". Perhaps Michelle left out her first miscarriage for the same reasons. . I will always be sad about what could have been but I am thankful for the two beautiful girls I have here with me whom I love with all my heart.
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So sorry for your loss, and also for the narrow opinions of close minded people. The way I heard about your loss was by seeing those types of opinions on the internet. "Oh No! How could they post pictures of their deceased baby?" I found the pictures both here and a couple of other websites and I believe they are rather tasteful and touching. So many times people dont feel confortable talking about things like miscarrage. Insensitive ones will even try to "confort" one with things like "Its better now than later" like its not a "real" baby until its born... Anyways, I applaude your courage because most dont have to have their every move examined by strangers. I hope you truely have every happiness God wills for you.
ReplyDeleteI just watched Michelle and Jim Bob on Anderson Cooper. You are such a lovely caring family and I am deeply sorry for your loss. Both of you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I know what you are going through. My daughter miscarried at 20 weeks and we too felt the same way you do in terms of naming him and counting him as a part of our family. I look forward to seeing him again one day. Just as you will see your sweet Jubilee. God Bless!
ReplyDeleteThe Duggars have a huge place in my heart, they have shown me how to better my walk with God. I love them as if I where with them everyday. They are the way Americans should act and walk with service to others. They bring family values back where they should be.
ReplyDeleteGod has given us a gift by entering into there lives. Thank you we love you and god bless you.
we love you and the children, you are in my heart everyday and I am so blessed that you have allowed us to join in your family...you inspiration to others is wonderful and you are truly blessed.
ReplyDeleteI don't care who you are, but NO ONE deserves being criticized when they have lost a baby. NO ONE!! Duggars, I respect your strong faith, and the high values you teach your children. Unlike some of the children being raised now days without respect because no one wants to raise their children they way they were raised. I don't care how many kids you have, kudos to you for having the children you have with the high values, and non-judgmental attitudes you have taught them in life. I have tears in my heart for your loss. I have lost one at 6 and half months. At the time I was 18yrs old and couldn't of raised my boy on my own. I raise my glass to you on being able to raise such amazing children with love, and respect. Thank you for being such an amazing example to me. (I am a divorced parent of a 13yr old girl)
ReplyDeleteI too had a blessed angel born alive at 22 wks into the pregnancy. She was our first child and there had been no problems other than the usual, but Labor began and she was born June 3, 1961 weighing 14 oz and was 11inches long. I was not a Christian at that time and when she died within a few hrs, I was devestated. However, my husband's church family gathered around us and showed me love and compassion. Thru his and their leading, I became a Christian. I always say I have 5 children and the first one was the one who helped introduce me to Christ. She only lived a short while but I know someday I'll see her and Christ because of her life and death. Her birthday is always still somewhat sad, but I know she's safe in the arms of Jesus. Thank God for his merciful love. My prayers are for you and your family.
ReplyDeleteDear Jim Bob and Michelle,
ReplyDeleteI just want you to know that I personally know what its like to lose a child so young. I lost a son in June of 07. It is the worst thing that could ever happen to anyone. I hope Jubliee and my son James are getting all the love they can get in heaven.
Dear dugger family,
ReplyDeleteDon't listen to these rude, negative comments.....your family is well blessed! I too just lost a son 7/21/12 in my second trimester at 16.5 weeks and went in for a regular check up to find no heart beat. I miss my son, like you miss Jubilee. You continue with the good work you do with your children, children are truely a blessing!
I am so sorry for your loss, I lost my son recently on 7/21/12 at 16.5 weeks. I hope Jubilee and my son Mathew are getting all the love they can get in heaven and i hope jesus holds them on his lap and gives them a hug for us.
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ReplyDeletemichelle is counting baby Caleb at the end when she says when asked she would say she has 21 kids
I love the Duggers but I hate to say that I agree with you...she needs to hang up her maternity clothes and call it a day...Michelle...you are the shining example of what all mothers should be like but please, give your body a break and enjoy the 20 live children you do have...your body is tired and being pregnant is a real burden...so I hope Jim Bob will back up off of you and let your poor reproductive organs heal.
ReplyDeleteTo the wonderful Duggar family: God bless you and guide you though your joys and sorrows in life. I pray for you. Pay no mind to the hateful people leaving comments. They allow Satan to use them for attacks. Be blessed *hugs to all*
ReplyDeleteI 2nd the GOOD comments! You dealt with Jubilee in a wonderful way during such a devastation at the same time.
ReplyDeleteShe's with the Lord, and as happy as can be. One day you will all be united again, as you well know.
To get on with life now, you are doing wonderful!
I've been watching your trip to Asia! WOW!! I think I see some adoption coming your way! Koodles to you!
Laurie
So sorry for your loss I hope I can meet you guys and her one day
ReplyDeleteDear Michelle, I just wanted to say that hearing your letter to Jubilee was a blessing for me today. I am so sorry for your loss. My heart breaks for yours and your families but God has greater plans than we could ever begin to fathom and your family always seeks Him in everything, joy and sorrow. I pray God continue to bless your family as the years go on and as y'all continue to listen to His calling. And I too am praying that our little ones (mine that I lost the summer following your daughter) have become fast friends in the care of their Heavenly Father. The best part about knowing where the little ones are is that we will be seeing them again, and boy I can't wait to hear all the stories that they have to share.
ReplyDeleteGod bless you sister and love in Christ
Jim Bob, Michelle & Family,
ReplyDeleteI am so very sorry for your loss. I know this is over 2 years late but having just had a miscarriage myself not even a month ago, I intensely feel the loss you have had two times over. I'm not sure why the Lord took away my baby Ashley at 12 weeks but I am thankful that I will one day see him/her in heaven.
May the Lord continue to comfort and bless you all.
In Christ
Dear lily and Ellie,
ReplyDeleteY di she say grandbaby 23 hen it would be grandbaby 22?
May God bless you abundantly in your grief and fill your hearts and minds with peace. I have lost three baby girls through miscarriage and I happen to share a birthday with Jubilee. I know how you feel and I thank God that you continue to choose LIFE! Every child is a blessing from God from the moment of conception and as Mother Teresa of Calcutta said: "How can there be too many children? That is like saying that there are too many flowers!"
ReplyDeleteIt is confusing that Michelle is counting baby Jubilee but not baby Caleb who also did not survive. Is there a reason for this? My heart goes out to anyone who has lost a child, no matter what age (or gestational age).
ReplyDeleteI'm not sure if they (lily and Ellie) have any photos of jubilee. I would love to see some photos of jubilee too. But, I understand it might be too painful.
ReplyDeleteJubilee is (was) baby number 21 and Michelle has been pregnant 19 times
ReplyDeleteSorry for your lose Michelle, this is one of the best letter to that I have heared.
ReplyDelete@Katie First Can I say sorry for the loss of 2 children may they rest in peace. 2nd abortion is not wrong if a child is raped at 13 or if any woman is raped and if there is something drasticly wrong with the baby, that if it was born in so much pain that its quality of life was poor. Im pro choice as I have been raped before and found myself pregnant I made the decision to have the baby and place up for adoption, sadly it wasnt ment to be thks to a violent x partner punching me in the belly when he found out i was pregnant before I had chance to tell the whole thing. To this day I have not dealt with this but I did go on to have 4 beautiful children of my own and sadly 11 miscarriages and 30 foster children to fill my life with love and 10 gran babies aswel
ReplyDeleteVery beautiful Michelle, you were a very strong mummy to say something beautiful like this. God bless you
ReplyDeleteSo sorry for your loss!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I know how it feels i lost my mom may 27-2017
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