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Friday, December 9, 2011

Michelle Speaks about Miscarriage

Just yesterday, the Duggars were hit with the devastating news that Michelle had miscarried her 20th child. Today, she felt well enough to talk to People Magazine, and this is what she said: 

"I am resting and I have felt good physically, which is strange," says the mother of 19 "The kids are mothering me now. Jill just brought me some food and they are taking good care of me."

Michelle was 19 weeks and 1 day along, and doctors put the baby's development at 16 weeks. Jill, who is in the process of earning her Bachelors of Science in Nursing, last listened to the heartbeat on November 25th.

"On Dec. 3, I felt a little uncomfortable but I thought it was just something I'd eaten," Michelle tells People. "It could have been the beginning of something going wrong."

After consulting with the doctor, it was decided that Michelle will have a natural miscarriage.

When they find out the gender, the family will choose a name and then conduct a funeral service. The last time Michelle miscarried was after the arrival of Josh and before twins Jana and John-David were born.

"We named that baby Caleb even though we didn't know if it was a boy or girl because that miscarriage was early," explains Michelle to People Magazine.  "We will name this child and will know that we will see those children again someday in heaven."

61 comments:

  1. AnonymousDecember 9, 2011 at 1:12 PM

    Michelle,
    You are without a doubt an inspiration. I am moved to tears but know that you now have an additional angel watching over your brood.
    Que Dios Te Bendiga.
    Barbara
    Miami, Florida

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  2. AnonymousDecember 9, 2011 at 1:17 PM

    I am sure sorry for your loss. I am praying for you and your family!
    God Bless, Kathryn PC,MO

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  3. tamlovesranDecember 9, 2011 at 1:21 PM

    You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

    Tammy

    www.sunshinecottage.blogspot.com

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  4. AmyDecember 9, 2011 at 1:28 PM

    I am so sorry. We too received heartbreaking news at a 20-week ultrasound, and I can't tell you how healing it was to take pictures of the birth, name our daughter, and have a funeral with our family and friends. It is a long hard road to mourn the loss, but we saw God do beautiful things with our pain, and I know he will do the same for your. Love and prayers.

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  5. AnonymousDecember 9, 2011 at 1:30 PM

    Michelle, my thoughts are with you. I went through the same thing earlier this year, losing my baby boy Isaac at 22 weeks, after narrowly having him saved at a 19 week growth check.

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  6. AnonymousDecember 9, 2011 at 1:34 PM

    I am praying for you and the whole family Michelle. I know that this came as a shock and you are so sad to know your little one is with the LORD - but in knowing and believing in that we do have HOPE.

    Learning of this sad news brought back some memories for me since I also had a missed miscarriage, late in my first trimester. We had no idea the baby was gone until our ultrasound. . . .

    May His peace surround you and carry you through this time. You ar ein my prayers.

    Thankful for your testimony and grace-ful living.

    Sincerely,

    Mrs. Gina Weeks

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  7. AnonymousDecember 9, 2011 at 1:37 PM

    I love your family and your show and my heart breaks for your loss. My third daughter was born at 25 weeks and 4 days and there were several occasions during which I thought I had lost her beginning at 18 weeks. Your faith and trust in God's will for your family is an encouragement and an inspiration.

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  8. Jana SmithDecember 9, 2011 at 1:41 PM

    I am deeply sorry for your loss. My heart and prayers are with you and your family.
    Jana Mena,Arkansas

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  9. DianeDecember 9, 2011 at 2:01 PM

    Michelle and Jim-Bob: My heart goes out to you both! I've been praying for you to feel our Lord's grace and peace during this time. You both are such a blessing; such an example of a wonderful marriage where you both seek to glorify the Lord Jesus through your love for each other and your family. Thank you for airing your story on TLC!

    Diane
    Spring, Texas

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  10. dthneeceDecember 9, 2011 at 2:05 PM

    Michelle,
    I am so saddened for you and all of your family for this great loss. God bless you for what you have done for all of us in sharing everything that you have, whether painful or joyful. You teach us all what a laid down life is and have changed my walk with the Lord.
    I pray that He heals all of your hearts and gives you deep, deep abiding peace. Love, Denise

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  11. AnonymousDecember 9, 2011 at 2:10 PM

    Im so sorry for your loss, you are an exceptional family. God Bless You.

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  12. StephanieDecember 9, 2011 at 2:14 PM

    Michelle, our hearts are with you. As I Mother who has never lost any children to a miscarriage I can not IMAGINE how you must feel. You and you family are a true inspiration to us all and will be in our prayers. God bless you.

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  13. AnonymousDecember 9, 2011 at 2:25 PM

    Your strength and courage and complete trust in God has always been an inspiration to me. You have helped me in many ways to grow in my faith and trust. You and your family are in my prayers. And thank you for showing me how to be a real God-loving woman. Sue, MN

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  14. Claire MeunierDecember 9, 2011 at 2:26 PM

    You are a beautiful, wonderful and courageous woman!!  I pray you all find peace even though this pain won't ever go away completely. It's a hard time but like you say let's remember She/He is with Jesus, surrounded by His perfect joy, peace and love now! :) Lots of love from me and rest well in your family and His arms!

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  15. AnonymousDecember 9, 2011 at 2:29 PM

    So sorry ti you and your family.... hopefully God will bless u with another little one soon...

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  16. UnknownDecember 9, 2011 at 2:34 PM

    as a mother of 8 (3 that are in heaven with our Lord), i feel your pain. my family is praying for yours.

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  17. AnonymousDecember 9, 2011 at 2:50 PM

    I am deeply saddened by your loss, but know that your faith will get you through this difficult time. Your little angel will now be watching over you.

    Our prayers are with you.
    Susana G. Fontana, CA

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  18. AnonymousDecember 9, 2011 at 3:13 PM

    Your family is in our prayers...may you feel Our Lord's peace during this time.

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  19. BethDecember 9, 2011 at 3:16 PM

    My heart is breaking for them, for her! Losing a child is so difficult. May they all feel God's grace and mercy during this time!

    Praying for all of them!

    Beth
    Ohio

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  20. MarcieDecember 9, 2011 at 3:17 PM

    I was so sad to hear the news and was afraid to tell my children because we were all so excited when we had heard about baby #20 on the way. We too have had experienced losses and I knew my children would be feeling those tender feelings again when I told them about your loss. I had two early miscarriages and one stillborn baby at 28 weeks. When no heartbeat was found I was induced because I was told my body might not deliver her until 40 weeks. We named her Julianne and had a sweet memorial service for her. We visit her grave regularly and she is a very much talked about family member. We all love her and while I wouldn't wish it on anybody (it was the hardest thing I ever went through), I am grateful now for the experience because of how close it made our family and how much more we appreciate and cherish our 7 living children. We pray that you will feel His loving arms around you as we did with our loss.
    A note to Michelle: I read a few books from the library on losses that helped me with my grief and not feeling so alone. "Gone Too Soon" "Empty Cradle, Broken Heart" are a couple of them.

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  21. ShannaDecember 9, 2011 at 3:34 PM

    Your family is in our prayers. Having 3 early miscarriages and losing our sweet Hannah at 24 weeks pregnant, we understand the loss and grief you feel. I'm so happy for the hope that we will see our babies in heaven some day. May God continue to bless your sweet family.

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  22. RhondaDecember 9, 2011 at 3:45 PM

    I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your precious baby. I also lost a baby, at 17 weeks, and the circumstances were almost identical to the ones you described. An unwell feeling, then finding at the routine checkup that there was no heartbeat. We were unsure as you are as to the gender, which was presumed to be a boy. As it turned out, our little girl's name is Michael. She still holds a special place in our hearts and always will. God bless you and yours and remember that there are many who love and support you in their prayers.

    Rhonda,
    Scott Depot, WV

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  23. Ann from TexasDecember 9, 2011 at 3:54 PM

    Hi! As a sister in Christ I want to mourn with you and rejoice with you. I'm so sad that this precious baby is gone too soon on earth but am happy that you'll have another child to be with for eternity. I also lost our baby girl Lilly Grace at 19 weeks one day. She passed away somewhere between 16-17 weeks we think. She was 5 1/2 inches long and only weighed a few ounces. I was scared in the beginning because we were told that I would have to deliver her and I didn't know what to expect. It ended up being a chance for our Lord to graciously grant us the peace that passes all understanding. It was incredible. We have never felt God's presence so strongly. It was like he surrounded us totally with his angels and love to protect us from all evil during that time. I pray for you the same. Love in Christ, Ann from Texas, Mom of 5 on earth and 5 in heaven

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  24. Becky YoungDecember 9, 2011 at 3:57 PM

    I am so sorry for your lost, my heart goes out to you. What is worse is all the negative comments coming from different sources. I pray you do not take them to heart but lift up them to prayer. You have such a beautiful, caring family.

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  25. CathyDecember 9, 2011 at 4:00 PM

    SO sorry for your loss. The Lord giveth and the Lord taketh away. Blessed be the name of the Lord.

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  26. MichelleDecember 9, 2011 at 4:03 PM

    I prayed for you last night. I lost my son Liam at 20 weeks and 5 days of pregnancy.

    My heart hurts for you all.

    Love,

    Michelle

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  27. AnonymousDecember 9, 2011 at 4:11 PM

    So sorry to hear of your loss of your beautiful baby! I too had 2 miscarriages. It is so sad but we will see them in Heaven one day. God bless you and your family. My prayers are with you all!

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  28. AnonymousDecember 9, 2011 at 4:15 PM

    My prayers are with you..

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  29. Southern GrandmaDecember 9, 2011 at 4:37 PM

    Your child is in Heaven in the arms of angels. No words can ease your pain at this loss, but we know Jesus and his Love are surrounding you and the family. God bless you. We love you, dear Duggars.

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  30. LisaDecember 9, 2011 at 4:57 PM

    So sorry about your loss! Praying for you and your family!
    Lisa ~ Broadview Heights, Ohio

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  31. AnonymousDecember 9, 2011 at 5:04 PM

    I am so sorry for the loss of your little angel.

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  32. Michela GDecember 9, 2011 at 5:19 PM

    this is sooo so sad. I am sooo so sorry :( my mom had a miscarriage earlier this year after getting pregnant after not being pregnant for 13 years. She's the same age as Mrs. Duggar. I know how y'all all feel and I pray that God comforts y'all and that y'all heal soon. Thank you for being such a light in this world of darkness and for inspiring people of every age to have more patience and love for one another!

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  33. AnonymousDecember 9, 2011 at 5:30 PM

    I am so sorry for your loss. May God shine his light upon you and comfort you and your family. You are in our prayers.

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  34. AdrianDecember 9, 2011 at 5:37 PM

    I'm saddened to hear of your loss. I lost a baby at 14 wks I understand your pain. My thoughts and prayers are with you. God bless you.

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  35. AnonymousDecember 9, 2011 at 5:43 PM

    my mom had a miscarriage and also a premature birth who didn't make it.. I still hold my two siblings in my heart after all these years.. the youngest was Daniel and I tell ppl I have a brother than can show me around heaven when I get there.. the little one's siblings will heal from the pain but they will never forget him/her.. God bless you all

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  36. Heidi gail wallsDecember 9, 2011 at 5:55 PM

    You are such a inspiration and i am so sad for you all. Were you 19 weeks or 16 weeks?

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  37. AnonymousDecember 9, 2011 at 5:57 PM

    Michelle & JimBob & family,
    My Prayers go out you at this time.But God is watching out for this small
    angel with you always in your heart.from Linda canada

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  38. AnonymousDecember 9, 2011 at 6:07 PM

    Michelle & JimBob,
    My prayer s are with you and so for loss my heart goes out to your family.
    Linda
    Canada Ontario

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  39. AnonymousDecember 9, 2011 at 6:53 PM

    I'm saddened by your loss. I understand your pain i lost a baby at 14wks. You are in my thoughts and prayers. God bless you.

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  40. AnonymousDecember 9, 2011 at 8:26 PM

    Please accept my sincere sorrow in the loss of your child. As a mother, I cn only emagine your grief. Love and Prayers from the Walukas family.

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  41. AnonymousDecember 9, 2011 at 8:48 PM

    so sorry for your loss. i have also had a misscarriage at 19 weeks. it is devastating. but i know you will push forward thru your faith and your children. This subject is so taboo and hopefully your bravery will help others to talk about their experiences. love and god bless, deborah (mom of 4)

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  42. lisaDecember 9, 2011 at 9:51 PM

    Dugger's,
    Sorry to hear such sad news. We lost our son @24 weeks. But he had been in heaven for a little while. After a great 20week ultrasound. His umbilical cord was hypercoiled. I was induced. Which I'm glad for. Cause I was suffering so emotionaly. And because he was gone for so long the placenta didn't come out whole. I ended up having several blood clots in my lungs a few days later. It is such a hard choice to allow me to get pregnant again. I just can't give birth just to bury another one of my precious children. I go often to see him. And the bereavement therapy helps. It's been 6 months. Just to let you know ...I believe your state will give your child a birthcertificate if you deliver after 20 weeks. It is a Certificate of birth of Stillbirth. Not like a certificate of stillbirth which doesn't reconize the birth. God is with you all. Michelle hope you are in good health. God Willing. Bless.

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  43. AnonymousDecember 9, 2011 at 10:28 PM

    Our family is so sorry for your loss. You are in our prayers tonight.
    God bless you,
    The Irizarrys
    Dallas, TX

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  44. Sibyl CarterDecember 9, 2011 at 11:19 PM

    May you find peace in God's love. I have also lost two babies. I know that with your strong faith in God you will one day be reunited again. Your family is a wonderful example of what a Godly home should be. Your show has inspired me to believe that there are so many more ways to devote yourselves to God. I wish I could say I was half the parent you are. Love in Christ. I am praying for your family.

    Sincerly,

    S. Carter

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  45. AnonymousDecember 10, 2011 at 12:19 AM

    Father God,
    I pray that you would wrap this family in your loving arms....Lord I lift up this obedient family that loves, fears, and adores you! I could not begin to imagine how difficult it must be for them to be a testament of your love before the entire word! lord I pray that you would restore Michelle's health and use her in the most marvelous manner always for your glory......In Your Sons name....amen

    Michelle,
    I am so terribly sorry for your loss. My first baby was misscarriage and it is never easy to understand.

    Your sister in Christ,
    Amanda Perkins
    The perkinslovejesus@hotmail.com

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  46. Melissa SnowDecember 10, 2011 at 7:00 AM

    Michelle,

    I was so sorry to hear about your sweet baby. I also lost a baby, but at @5mo. gestation, and chose to wait until the baby delivered naturally. We had gone in to find out the gender and instead found our little girl had already went to heaven. It was hard and I actually went into a depression and my husband sufferred terribly. God is so good though and helped us through it all and we have been able to encourage others because of the pain we went through. We had already decided if it was a girl her name would be Hannah, so our little Hannah is playing by the streams of living water, I believe your sweet child is also :D It brings me great comfort to know these children will never know pain and will forever be in the presence of the Lord and that one day I will see my sweet babies in heaven!

    Praying for your family.

    Melissa Snow

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  47. AnonymousDecember 10, 2011 at 12:39 PM

    I'm so sorry about the devastating news! My heart goes out to u n ur wonderful family. Yall r in my thoughts and prayers!....may God bless you in this time of trial!

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  48. AnonymousDecember 10, 2011 at 2:54 PM

    i am sorry for your loss,please know alot people are thinking of you during this diffucult time. today,is josies 2nd birthday,enjoy this milestone.i have enjoyed keeping up with her progress,and watching her grow.again,i am sorry for the loss of your 20th baby,i wish you the best.

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  49. EthelDecember 10, 2011 at 3:15 PM

    I believe just like you that we will see all those gone before us when we get to heaven. It isn't easy to accept this kind of news, but christians know that God's will be done. You are an inspiration to all. I was saddened that this happened, but am glad God has given you the comfort you all need. Thank you for your blog.

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  50. AnonymousDecember 10, 2011 at 8:26 PM

    I'm. Sorry for your lost,I know some of the hurt you are going thru I lost 3 babies in a row before I had my five wonderfull kids,we watch your show every time its on my family and I will be praying for you in this hard time.

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  51. AnonymousDecember 10, 2011 at 10:52 PM

    To the Duggars: I can only imagine the great pain of your loss. You are a wonderful family, and you will reunite with your baby some day in heaven. That is not far off, please know that you will see him again, and that he is in a better place. He was spared off the pains of life. May God bless you and protect you. Remember this song that you all know by heart "When I'm walking through a valley
    And I feel there's no way out
    When the winds of sorrow threaten me
    And they turn my world about
    That's when I look to Jesus
    And the price He paid for me
    I can lift my hands in praise to Him
    And shout the victory" God be with you, Duggars. May he give you peace, hope, and love for Him.

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  52. AnonymousDecember 11, 2011 at 10:36 AM

    I will be praying for them! That is heartbreaking news, but at the same time, it is good to know they will see their little one again in heaven!

    -Anna Rose

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  53. AmberDecember 12, 2011 at 1:55 PM

    God knows what we cam handle. What a loving God to take your baby to heaven to live without blemish then to allow her to suffer on earth. May God continue blessing you.

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  54. AmberDecember 12, 2011 at 1:55 PM

    God knows what we cam handle. What a loving God to take your baby to heaven to live without blemish then to allow her to suffer on earth. May God continue blessing you.

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  55. AnonymousDecember 12, 2011 at 2:40 PM

    Michelle, Jim Bob and Family---I too offer up my sincerest prayers and sympathy. I too understand the heartbreak of loss during pregnancy...I have two beautiful healthy girls, followed by nine consectutive preganancy losses, not all early. Although I'm very spiritual and have always tried to learn and grow from this, it doesn't make it easier. I will say though, you Michelle, have actually VERY much inspired me to keep the faith throughout this journey, and not give up...I do trust in God and the Divine. Peace, Love, Prayers and Blessings be with all of you and your beautiful Angel...no doubt her short time with you was a powerful one that has taught you much. Sherry, SC

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  56. TeresaDecember 12, 2011 at 3:01 PM

    My condolces to the entire Duggar family.I too have lost three children at 11 weeks,8 weeks and 5 monthes.Each loss was devastgating and we prayed to the Lord what to name his blessing whom never touched earth.Our first baby was Joesph,the second one Gloria and the third Matthew.The Lord does prevail as I was blessed with twin girls Hope and Faith born December 1st at 39 weeks weighing 5 pounds each.
    God Bless,
    Teresa

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  57. helen singletonDecember 12, 2011 at 5:35 PM

    hey i love the duggars!!! my question is that was jubilee a boy or girl

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  58. AnonymousDecember 13, 2011 at 1:29 AM

    so sorry to hear about your loss. we will keep u in our prayers. god bless you and your family.

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  59. AnonymousDecember 13, 2011 at 12:54 PM

    I respect your decision to bear and rear your own children, but you state that you will wait for God to decide when your family is large enough. Don't a premature birth and a tragic miscarriage look like "signs" to you? Are you listening to God or yourselves?

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  60. AnonymousDecember 14, 2011 at 12:54 AM

    Hello Duggar family, I am so sad about this, but I know GOd is with you in your time of sorrow, this child will always be with you in spirit. I hope Michelle is resting and know GOd is watching over you and your lovely family. You are in my thoughts and prayers. I will continue to pray for you and your family.

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  61. sheriDecember 14, 2011 at 8:56 PM

    so sorry to hear about u and Jim Bob's loss your family is in my thoughts and prayers

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